co - parenting with deadbeat dad

[lockdownmummax]

looking for some advice as I'm struggling on what to do,

I'm a first time young mum, I'm 22 a student nurse and work part time too so my life is really busy and stressful at times without all of this added stress he is causing, my daughter is 18 months and her dad is just a complete loser, I left him due to his gambling problem and domestic abuse...
he is acting crazy, he has been messaging me for weeks and weeks wanting to get back together which Is not happening, he doesn't pay for my daughter or see her, he just pops up when it suits him, he takes drugs, drinks he's just a complete mess, I wouldn't feel safe with leaving my daughter with him at all, he tried to take his own life during the week I don't know much about what happened however he is out of hospital now and has been sending me videos of his private parts I've told him to stop multiple times
I have met someone new, we are just dating nothing serious yet and of course I wouldn't introduce my daughter to him any time soon but my daughters dad is just making this hard for me and causing problems
Can I block all contact with him and go through a lawyer? He has threatened to go for full custody of my daughter and this is always playing in the back of my mind I feel he still has some sort of mental hold over me

Have you reported the harassment?
What agencies have you involved?
Is he on the birth certificate?

I would report the harassment to the police. Claim child maintenance.

Report the harassment and block and go no contact. Safety first. He won't get full custody of her.

First, you don't need to worry about custody - he's erratic, a drug user, hasn't paid anything, doesn't turn up reliably, has no history of caring for her by himself..... threatening you with custody is just that - a threat. go ahead and laugh in his face about that one.

The harassment etc is a whole different thing and I would be reporting that. Because if it escalates, having it on record would be helpful. It's also possible that a visit from the police might be the shock he needs to leave you alone. If possible block him as much as you can - perhaps provide a single email address where he can reach you to discuss things related to your dd.

Is he in work? In which case you should be getting some maintenance from him. Speak to CAMS to get them to sort it.

Ignore all contact and report the harassment to the police. He won't get custody and you shouldn't co-parent with him in this state. Maybe in a few years he'll be different and your daughter will be able to have some kind of relationship with him but right now he is bad for you and would be for her. And yes if he has an income get some maintenance but don't speak directly to him about it or anything else.