Husband not taking children’s safety seriously - help!

[Silkyslisksu]

So the father of my children is very lax when it comes to my children’s safety. He has a habit of scoffing when I point out that certain foods are choking hazards for out 1yo and says I’m being dramatic or overreacting. Yesterday he let our 1yo play unaccompanied on a slide that was sitting on concrete while he lounged into the chair 5m without a care in the world, when the baby could easily have fallen and cracked her head on the pavement. He then proceeded to to the same thing again today even after I made it clear how dangerous this was.

He also just tried to put out baby to sleep in a flowing dress, and when I pointed out that this had the potential to rise over her head at night and potentially suffocate her, he guffawed in my face and exclaimed “Yeah RIGHT! Like that’s gonna happen!” Then added something sarcastic along the lines of “and aliens are gonna come down from the sky and kill us too!”

Their safety just seems to be a joke to him — what the hell do I do, I don’t trust him to keep them safe at all.

You’re not being overly anxious, you’re being a good parent. I have had similar headaches with my DH-incredibly frustrating as I have to check up on what’s going on, and remind him about stuff- another heap of stuff on my mental load.

I mean, I’d find it really weird to put the baby to bed in a dress!?? Unless you’d been out and she’d fallen asleep or something. Strange.

Otherwise my 2.5 year old only started walking 6 months ago and isn’t capable in the play ground on his own so he needs close supervision still. Every child has different physical capabilities but I wouldn’t be leaving a 1 year old to blast down the slide with minimal supervision. Sounds a bit lazy tbh.

It's difficult to assess whether he's been lax or your being paranoid on the info provided. Is she just 1 or nearly 2? Is it a toddler slide or 6 foot? Is the choking hazard grapes and boild sweets, or are you worried about any food not cut up tiny?

Either way, I it's generally easier and less stressful to create a safe environment were you can be hands off, then hover over them. So keep slide on grass, or don't keep slide if it's not safe. Only buy clothes that are safe to wear and to nap inand don't buy small toys or sweets that could be choking hazards.

Even thing like grapes and cherry tomatoes, if you don't trust him to always cut them, just don't buy them for a few years (I didn't for while when DS started helping himself from fruit bowl), there's plenty of other fruit.