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dd's teacher told me today that dd has been injuring herself so she doesnt have to go out and play?

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chocolatespiders · 07/12/2007 14:23

i am shocked about this...

helped out at nativity play today... after it dd was being told off by teaching, dd was then in tears, sat on my lap, teacher came over and said that she had caught dd in toliets sat in sink, scratching at her forehead while looking in mirror, teacher told me that it is not the first time, dd has been seen banging her head on playground floor so she can go in.

i really feel sad about this, i am lone parent, dd is 4, i feel the class is to big for her - 30 children, at her nursery there was only 10....

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Saturn74 · 07/12/2007 14:24

Your poor DD
What are the school going to do to help her?

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chocolatespiders · 07/12/2007 14:29

i am ot sure i need to talk to teaching about it, i was a bit in shock this morning, and have come home thinging more and more about it, - this is not what i planned for my day off work

dd also has big holes in her school cardi's where she chews at them,

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TotalChaos · 07/12/2007 14:30

oh dear, poor thing. I agree with HC - school should be looking at what is so upsetting to her about the playground.

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juuule · 07/12/2007 14:39

If it's upsetting her that much then I think they should give her the option to stay in. Possibly ask her if she wants to stand with the playground supervisor if she's willing to go out.
How come they've only just mentioned it to you?

mylittlepudding · 07/12/2007 16:04

Will your dd talk to you about it? What a sad thing and a very hard day for you all. What is your GP like? A chat with a sympathetic one sounds like a good plan.

aquariusmum · 07/12/2007 16:20

have they checked she is not being bullied - that would be my first question, or ask them to assign her a buddy, a sensible older child?

Magicmayhem · 07/12/2007 16:37

ask if you school does a buddy system... a lot of schools do them, and it give the younger children a friend and someone to play with...
does she have many friends at this school? could you have one back for tea each week..
bless her...

NAB3littlemonkeys · 07/12/2007 17:17

{sad] Why has the school not talked to you about this before?

What does your DD say?

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chocolatespiders · 07/12/2007 20:09

i was all prepared to talk to teacher after school but she wasnt there....

dd says she likes to get hurt so she can go inside and get a cold compress?????

i think she probably does find play time a bit overwhelming, both classes so 60 children, all running round a small- but lovely area,

i def need to do something, she is on her 3rd cardi since chewing them, - someone had a thread on this a few weeks ago and it seemed that jumper chewing was stress related,

i really feel for her, she loves being with me and struggles going to her dad's. at school in morning she is constantly asking who's picking me up and if i say dad she gets upset....

obviously he see's a completly different side to dd. she is the perfect child when she is there, and would never say how she feels to him,

the whole thing makes me so ex MIL hates my guts and says nasty things to dd about me, and i feel so bad for dd who cant even talk about me while she is away from me... they are more concerend about the fact that most of dd's clothes are pink, and want me to buy her different colours

they normally change her clothes when she is there, and i think that is so horried for dd,

if i try and talk to him about it he disagrees because he sees dd as a perfect well balanced child becasue that how she acts there

oh god i better shut up i am going on and on

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NAB3littlemonkeys · 08/12/2007 08:54

If that was my child my MIL wouldn't be seeing her.

KaySamuels · 08/12/2007 09:03

Your poor dd. Definately go in to school, have they noticed her chewing holes in her cardi and said anything to you?? She sounds very stressed and anxious, and school should be supporting you with this.

My youngest sister started primary and hated it, my parents hadalso recently split at the time and it was very upsetting for her, my mum took her to GP o referred he to barnados family services, tey have child counellors, play sessions, art esions, etc and it did her the world of good. Maybe his could bean option??

I was shy and quiet t chool and often ddn'like to go out at playime, the teacher used o give me jobs to do like wipe the desks or sharen the pencils. It was nice tho to feel they accepted that I didn't want to go out, I found it overwhelming and lonely too. I am now a functional happy adult!

I hope she feels a little happier soon.

KaySamuels · 08/12/2007 09:05

Dn't know whats going on with my keyboard!

I would focus on the school side of things first, then your ex and in laws. Think school will be easier to turn around, she is there all day everyday, and they will support you and your dd. Ex isues may b a little ore difficult and you have my sympathy there.

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