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Andy3388 · 03/10/2021 15:01

Hello

I'm new here. Have dipped in and out in the past looking at different topics and threads. This time I am looking for advise and/or really just a general idea how other people work things.

I know every is different...

I have a 4yr old boy and am separated from his father. We share custody equally, nights each with the 4th being a grandparent. His father does help out with nursery pick ups due to my shifts. Hes a great dad and my LB loves him.

We've been separated just over a year and a half and he has now moved on with someone else. I won't bore you all with the details of our break up/relationship but I was/am still in love so we basically lived in each others pockets still. Now I am wanting to cut ties and only communicate for our child.

This is causing some aggro as we do still have 'family days'. Basically both of us pay and attend days out with your child. I am two minds whether or not to continue this as my LB loves it but I am conscious that we are separated.

We are now coming up to our 2nd separated Cbristmas and I want to.go down the route of buying our presents for our LB as opposed to last year when we still done it as if we were still a couple, I.e halved in and then spent spent day together. My ex thinks we should still do this.

Basically this long winded post is to ask what everyone else does and what they think?

Thank you Smile

OP posts:
BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 03/10/2021 15:08

I think you are separated so don't act like a couple. It's a nice idea but rarely works long term in my opinion.

Fallagain · 03/10/2021 15:42

Your not happy with the current situation so it’s not working. It’s not working so it needs to change.

Babyghirl · 03/10/2021 20:56

Stop family days out together your son has to get use to the fact he has two parents who love him but live apart.

As for Christmas I believe kids should only have one house for Christmas presents, so can he come over on Christmas morning for so opening his presents then leave bit 11 then have your son on boxing day.

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