Would you raise this?

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I have severe health anxiety, particularly around kids health. Entirely around kids health, so would benefit from opinions as to whether this is me being ridiculous or reasonable.

DD attends a small group two mornings a week, she is 2, I have a newborn.

The staff are aware I am struggling with the amount of bugs at the moment (normal I know but I'm struggling).

Wednesday one of the mums posted that her son would not be there because he was choked with the cold. On the page for the group. I took Dd along and left. It's not a parent stay thing.

I picked her up and the little boy was there, as was his dad to collect him. The dad was walking away and the teacher said I hope the baby is better soon. I asked another parent, who said the little boys baby brother is in hospital with RSV. Mum with him. Wee boy has bad cold

I'm really upset and quite honestly, scared.

I want to know whether I'm reasonable in saying on Wednesday that I should have been told he would be attending with a sibling in hospital with a contagious bug, and him being full of a heavy cold himself. I could then have kept mine home. Or is that just life?

It seems that the staff took him to help the dad out, I get that, but I have a baby as well. I'm now absolutely terrified and haven't slept a wink. Both mine streaming noses since. Feel like I'm just waiting for it to take hold.

Was this ok? I seem to have lost all perspective.

There will be children with colds at the vast majority of groups your children attend, sadly.

@TheGrumpyGoat yes. The cold I understand, but with a sibling in hospital with likely the same cold? My understanding, possibly wrong is that RSV presents as a cold and then goes into chest particularly in babies.

As the other parent in this scenario with my DTs last week, I’d be really upset if we were treated like lepers and my sons personal medical information was disclosed to another parent by their nursery.

DS was in hospital with RSV last week, DD wasn’t and attended nursery as usual. Nursery staff were aware, and were happy to take her.

I’m sorry you have severe health anxiety around your children, I truly am. With what I’ve said, I honestly don’t mean to minimise it, but as a parent on the opposite side I hope you understand why I’d not expect nursery to let you know. Have you sought any help for your anxiety?

I think it’s just life, kids are prone to bugs/colds/random illnesses, and DS would’ve caught it at nursery - he was just unlucky and had a horrible time of it which was bloody terrifying.

Thank you @MuchTooTired that's really helpful and honest.

Yes I appreciate its my issue.

Had the dad been on time I would have known and could have left. He was late, understandably maybe and was openly telling everyone what was happening. They both posted on FB this week various times since.

I understand what you are saying though about the confidentiality side.

I hope your has recovered.

I am getting help its just a long story and process.