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Struggling to burp baby

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Minnie227 · 30/09/2021 02:49

I’m really struggling to burp my 2 week old. DD is formula fed and DH can get several burps a feed but I can struggle to get any and it’s making me feel like a total failure of a mum. I feel so guilty/helpless as I can tell she needs to burp but I just can’t get them out no matter what position I try. DH is not supportive as he can’t see what my problem is as he has no trouble. I feel especially bad at night as I can hear her in her crib struggling with gas and DH will be dead asleep with his headphones in

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arcof · 30/09/2021 02:53

I had this problem. I think I remember having more luck with the technique where they lay on your forearm face down, and/or by holding her on my chest but between my boobs where it's flat like a man. If she's struggling in crib just lay her against your chest, being upright will be more comfy for her. And trust me you will get the hang of it and she's just fine and you're not failing her!

MyMabel · 30/09/2021 03:39

With DD I was sit her on my knee, support her with one hand under her chin/on her chest and one hand on her back/head and slowly move her in a circle. It was the only thing that would fully get her wind up as she would always keep a lot in and would get bellyache easily.

WTF475878237NC · 30/09/2021 03:39

I agree with the above ideas. Google wonky winding technique also. Best of luck!

If my baby struggles I pick her back up and try again and sometimes gas comes out then but it is definitely harder at night.

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Amammai · 30/09/2021 03:42

Your DH will just have to wake up as well to burp her - it’s his baby too! My DH is better at winding too but baby definitely got easier for me to wind/bought wind up more easily from around 5 or 6 weeks here. Work as a team, it will pass and become a distant memory very quickly x

HoppingPavlova · 30/09/2021 03:53

It’s a very Western concept, many cultures just don’t do burping, it’s not a thing. However, a lot of cultures usually keep babies in an upright position (often strapped to someone) rather than lying down for the majority of the time so maybe that’s why they don’t burp? No idea, just hypothesising.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 30/09/2021 04:06

I was useless at burping my DD. So bad that I just stopped doing it.
My DP was brilliant at it - I was told by midwives and HV that men seem to just be better at it.
I wondered if I was just being too gentle. My DP seemed a bit rough sometimes, but he's had training on baby first aid/resus due to his emergency service job, so he knows amounts of pressure he could use etc. He also tried several techniques - some I struggled with due to health/pain issues.
He also woke up to do every night feed with me so did the night burping. I hated when he was working nights as it meant I was bound to struggle.

I'd completely forgotten about winding - something else for me to worry about now my second is due!

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 30/09/2021 04:07

The movement in a circle worked for me in the first few weeks. Baby is now 3 months and I find he burps well if his chest is pressed against mine and he's upright / diagonal to my left.

Sometimes it hemps if I wait a few mins after feeding to bring him upright.

SundayTwizzle · 30/09/2021 04:19

I could have written this. I'm hopeless at winding, can hardly ever get anything up and feel so bad as DD looks so uncomfortable the other day. My friend popped in on the weekend and was holding her, I popped to the loo and when I came back she said I've just burped her as she looked windy, she burped a good 4-5 times! I was too embarrassed to ask her how she did it.

Sometimes it works if I do the over the shoulder hold and sort of bounce/jiggle and hope for the best...

Deathling · 30/09/2021 05:10

I put my kids over my shoulder (you know what I mean, so the side of the head was on top of my shoulder) and clapped on their backs, immediately after they drank, until the burp came. Usually worked... Best of luck.

tiggerwhocamefortea · 30/09/2021 05:28

My DH was always better than me.....just so you know it's nothing you are doing wrong.....it's about gravity....my DH is a foot taller than me and I imagine your DH is taller too - just the act of them being lifted up higher on to their shoulder rather than yours is why they wind quicker and easier as the change in height helps brings it up - that's why some people walk up and down the stairs whilst burping as the change in gravity gets things moving

tiggerwhocamefortea · 30/09/2021 05:31

When my twins were in NICU for 3 weeks I watched the nurses wind the babies too - they all tended to use the same position - so hand under the chin with the baby "sat" up on your knee sideways facing left and leant forward a bit and then taps and round rubs on the back - towards the left side of their back

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