Need advice on bullying and the school

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My DS is in Y3 at primary school and constantly has to deal with a violent boy in his class.
This boy has been violent to every child in his class since nursery! It started as him slapping, pinching and kicking children and now he’s gotten older he’s progressed to swearing at kids and teachers, punching children, punching teachers, throwing rocks, hitting with skipping ropes or tennis rackets and he even strangled my DS best friend with his school jumper. He wrapped it around his neck and squeezed it, to the point where a teacher had to drag the boy off my DS friend and then he attacked the teacher who pulled him off and this happened because my DS and his friend said they didn’t want to play with him. There has been no punishment whatsoever. The school in an effort to stop him abusing children put him on half days where he goes home after lunch but he didn’t stop. They then brought him back on to full days and the violence continued. Now my DS is half the size of this bully. My DS is scared to tell the boy he doesn’t want to play with him at lunch time in fear of being strangled. He follows my DS constantly around the play ground. They’ve only been back at school for 3 weeks and already the boy has tried to punch my DS in the face and today he threw a rock at my DS face and busted his lip open! I was not told about this incident when it happened at lunchtime (12pm) I got the phone call 2 hours later! And they played it down as usual!! Normally the school don’t tell me about incidents like this, I have to ask my DS everyday if somethings happened or not.

In the last 3 weeks Ive asked 4 teachers and the head teacher to keep that boy away from my DS and they haven’t done that. They are not keeping my DS safe!!!

I’m fed up of this school not listening to me! What more does this child have to do before they kick him from the school ! I would have thought strangling someone would be the final straw but obviously not 🤨

I wanted to ask for some advice on what action I can take! I just want my DS to be SAFE and him to be able to play with his friend and not be worried about being stalked on the playground by the boy or not be worried that the boy is going to attack him!!! This boy has hurt my son so many times over the years it’s a joke!

I was in a similar situation and unfortunately it seems that schools now take the view that these types of children are having difficulty at home and so are not punished. It was never resolved in my case but what I would say is that you should make sure you write to the headteacher because I was told that speaking to teachers and write letters to teachers meant that it wasn’t being logged at all and at one point even though I had complained every year about a boy they said they had no record of him misbehaving. I would also look at the complaints system at your school and follow that so you can then take it further if necessary.

You would not believe how difficult it actually is for schools to exclude a child. If your child’s teachers were allowed to I’m sure they would be asking you to write a letter to the Head, Chair of Governors and then the Local Authority if appropriate. They would ask you to encourage other parents to write similar letters. Keep it calm and give detailed examples as you have here. Ask for a meeting and take photo evidence if you have any.
Do you feel he is targeting your child in particular?

Read your school's Anti-Bullying and Safeguarding policies, which should be on the website. That should inform you of the standards they set themselves and what next steps you can take.

I’m a primary school teacher. Unfortunately there’s a limit to what we as teachers can do, but I urge you to document every incident, photograph injuries and keep contacting headteacher and COG each and every time. Do this in writing so there is a paper trail.

Timeturnerplease Great advice. i wish I had known this when the awful boy bullying my son and his class was running riot. We ended up having to choose a different Secondary school from our first choice because he was going there.

It’s a shame schools don’t step up more to protect children being bullied.