Am I seeing clearly?

[Seekingjoy]

He, just wanted bit of advice! DH been in a mood today due to problems with his manager at his new job anyways that puts him in bad form with us and our DDs . My eldest DD who is almost 6 was playing up and not doing what she was told so I raised my voice and told her off but then DH started shouting at her too, that was ok (as I’ve no issues in telling our children off ) but then my daughter got very upset crying as she’s not used to DH being so angry and my other DD got very upset too, the problem I have which I have is During that he just started to laugh in DD face and said to DD I guess I’m not your favourite anymore ? I felt so angry at him as fair enough telling her off but then to laugh in her face and say that? So I told him I wasn’t happy at all and of course now he throws his toys out of
Pram saying I think he’s a bad father bla bla , same old , everyone I try to express anything . He’s also making me seem like I’m over reacting at his behaviour ? So it be good t get your take on it as talking to family would make them turn against him. Thanks x

Sounds like he is struggling to regulate his own feelings about the situation and is playing out a negative pattern to transfer his feelings onto the rest of his family.
That is not ok, he needs to have support to regulate his emotions in a positive way and not have to resort to these negative ways.
So yes you are seeing clearly but resolving it is a bit more complex

@johnd2 hi thank you for your reply, yes he’s not very good at regulating his emotions at times. I just wish he would see his behaviour as wrong then I could try to help him but whilst he’s not accepting that he’s behaved In a wrong way it’s very difficult for me to have any compassion towards him . Thanks again

He doesn't have to see his behaviour as wrong in order for you to help. Behaviour is behaviour and dynamics generally require a few people to maintain.
Try to think about what you can do to change the situation. Your feeling is totally valid, as is his feeling, etc, however you need to avoid being a victim of his emotions either by helping eg counseling, by becoming resistant to his outbursts and not letting them trigger you, or by distancing yourself ie getting out of there either temporarily or permanently.
You can't change other people which is a good thing but also frustrating. Good luck though, and remember your feeling is valid too.