Undiagnosed Adult ADHD

[crimstudent87]

Hi everyone, this is my first post on Mumsnet and I was hoping for some advice/support. Over the summer I've began to suspect I may have ADHD...This was in part due to watching many Tiktoks over the summer of other women who have been diagnosed later in life. I was shocked to see some of the common "symptoms" they described and have become more and more convinced that I have ADHD too. I have a 10 year old son who has had some behavioural issues flagged in the past by his school and he has been assessed in the past for ADHD but I was told he didn't have it but I think there is a good chance he does, albeit mildly.

I'm having a hard day today, feeling very overwhelmed, ( I have just started Year 3 of my Degree for the second time), having had to repeat Year 2 once aswell. I feel like I can't do it, that I'm just going to fail...and that I'm a bad mum. I find being a single mum very overwhelming sometimes, and if I'd known there was a chance I had ADHD I might have thought again about bringing my gorgeous boy into this world. I don't feel like I'm anywhere near a good enough mum and sometimes I can be really selfish. I have approached my doctor about an ADHD assessment and after filling out a brief questionnaire they have referred me to the local team for a more indepth assessment.

Sorry for the long, all over the place post, if anyone can offer any insight or can relate I would appreciate any advice

Nothing hugely insightful to share but just to say you're not alone.

For the last few years I've wondered whether I have inattentive ADHD and seeing more about it on social media and reading up on it this year has convinced me - I tick pretty much every box! I finally got my a*se into gear and contacted my GP recently and am now on the waiting list for full assessment. I've noticed that it really does affect all aspects of my life, I'd love to function a little more like other people seem to be able to. At times it's quite overwhelming but other times I really apprectiate the unusaul way my brain works, so I'm just really keen to get some balance and understand how to get the best from it.

Please don't feel bad about your son, I'm sure you're doing a great job and he will love you so much. Plus, that you're juggling uni and a child is really impressive!

I found some facebook groups, podcasts and instagram accounts which help with tips or insights and are a safe space to ask questions. I'm also noticing that more and more people I admire are sharing that they have ADHD.

Podcast: ADHD for Smart Ass Women with Tracy Otsuka (I've just started this from the beginning and love it, it really makes me feel like I can do this)
Instagram: @theminiadhd_coach
@additudemag
@adhdoers
@iampayingattention
@adhdemystified
@authenticallyadhd

Good luck with your ADHD assessment and congrats on working on your degree (who cares how long it takes!) :)

@PorkPieForStarters can I just say what a lovely supportive reply that was.

OP good luck with your assessment, I feel the same and also have a son with likely ADHD which is what made me realise that we share similar traits. Try not to be so hard on yourself. What you’re doing is a major challenge at the best of times.