How to help daughter who is getting left out?

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DD is turning 6 and been inseperable with one girl since they were 1 year old. Another girl came on the scene 2 years ago and they have been a happy and content threesome since then.

Over the last few weeks, DD is coming home upset as the other two won't play with her. Furthermore, one is using intimidating language and actions like physically pushing her to do things. DD also said that the same girl will only play with her if she wears her hair down ect (this particular girl denied that she said this. She does come from a troubled family where there is verbal and financial domestic abuse so if it is true, I wonder if she's picking some things up from home).

DD comes from a settled family home, with an amazing sibling relationship full of fun. I'm home with them and DH is fully active with them too. However none of us have ever experienced any sort of thing like before, so I think we all feel ill equipped to know what to do.

I've told the teacher about the intimidating language who just says she's spoken to the kids but now DD is still being ignored by these two girls.

I've tried telling her to play with other friends but she just wants to play with these two girls.

I'm friends with the parents and have mentioned it all in passing but I think they just want to brush it all under the carpet.

Any advice on how to support DD with things to say/ storybooks to read/ resources ect?

Sorry OP I don't have any 1st hand experience of this but I heard a friend give advice once - she said its important to have another social group outside of school with completely different people. It means the child can put into perspective the school relationships and also have a completely separate group of friends that will give her something else to focus on. When they are so young those school relationships seem very intense and important and an extra group of friends can help relieve the stress etc.

Have you tried having the other 2 girls round to play and have them do an activity your involved in to help them interact better? Like some craft thing or something? Gently correct her - like oh xx likes to wear her hair down. Do you like yo wear your hair down? Etc.

Sounds like the other girls home life might be a big part to play in her behaviour. Must be very tough for her too x