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Bedtime 3 month old

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Wildflower2021 · 27/09/2021 20:33

Hello all,

First time mummy here and hoping this isn't a stupid question....

My Dd is 3 months old and since she was 6 weeks old I've been blessed enough to have her sleep through the night. It started off with a midnight bedtime and now shes down to 930-10pm. I've been googling to get some more information on what I should aim for, and I know google can be a wealth of information (some not so helpful) but it seems like I should be aiming for 7-8pm. I was just wondering if this is right? And what do parents do with such an early bedtime - are me and DH supposed to go to bed at 7pm? (As baby has a side by bed cot upstairs)

Thanks for reading

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SickAndTiredAgain · 27/09/2021 20:35

At 3 months I don’t think you can necessarily aim for a particular bedtime. If she falls asleep at 9:30 and sleeps through, I’d just go with that.

kittenpeak · 27/09/2021 21:16

Keep 9:30pm for now and you should go to bed at that time too.

With time, try and make bedtime earlier. You might find he will stop sleeping through the night when you put him to bed earlier, but he'll drop it in time. Google will give you so much info and everyone is different, but for what it's worth I'll tell you what we did:

From 3 months he would fall asleep about 10pm (straight after a feed). I then looked at his rough timings , as by this time he was in a loose routine, and engineered a 7pm bedtime. He would then wake at 10pm(ish) to eat, and After a fortnight of this I would initiate the feed and give him a dream feed. He then stopped waking up for that feed (but I feed him more in the day now) so now he sleeps 7-7 and doesn't need to eat in the night anymore

Peach01 · 28/09/2021 07:56

We started bringing the bedtime forward nearer 1 year.

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Timeturnerplease · 28/09/2021 08:13

Our 7 week old wails inconsolably unless you get her to bed by 6pm. She then sleeps until 2am.

Her older sister was the same, and they seem similar in personality so far in that they’re nap refusers so get increasingly hysterical throughout the day but sleep fairly well at night (barring night feeds of course).

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 28/09/2021 09:04

I'd stick with what's working for now. Theres a possibility they will go through the 4month sleep regression, so I'd wait till after that's done to aim for any sleep pattern changes.

Once they hit 6m they can go off to bed alone so just do that at a time that best suits them.

Lindy2 · 28/09/2021 09:07

It sounds like your current routine is working well for you. There's no need to change.

Bedtimes, routines adapt and develop as baby gets older. Atc3 months just go with the flow.

thetesdybears · 28/09/2021 09:11

No she doesn't need that sort of bedtime at this age. You time it around getting the most sleep! My first slept through from 6 wks too. We made her bath time 9pm and then a bottle and bed about 9.39-9.45. As she got bigger and slept longer we did her bath about 7.30 and bedded down for 8pm.

My second did not sleep through 😕 so we wld just bath her about 7.30 when her sister got a bath. She wld usually be bk up for a feed about 11/12.

Fizzl · 28/09/2021 09:44

I've been in exactly the same position as you. My little one is almost 3 months and I started fretting about her late bedtime quite early on as she naturally seemed to settle around 11pm and everything I read suggested they should be in bed much earlier. I posted a similar thread and got reassurances that routines come later on and if it's working stick with it. She's always had a bath around 9:30-10 and then is usually asleep within the hour now. For us it makes most sense as I then take her up to bed with me and then we all get the longest stretch of sleep. As others have said they're not meant to sleep on their own even for naps until 6months and I don't fancy being in bed at 7pm each night right now. Added bonus at the minute she doesn't wake up until 9-9:30 so I get a nice lie in too. I'm not worrying about a more fixed routine until she's 6months when I'm hoping she will naturally find her own routine and we'll bring bedtime forward as she needs more sleep. Don't fix what ain't broken is what I have to keep telling myself!

ImFree2doasiwant · 28/09/2021 09:47

I don't think "bedtime " really comes into it at 3 months old. What you are doing is fine. Once she's 6 months old she can go to bed without you. I walkways kept mine downstairs til I went to bed. They both naturally developed a bedtime closer to 6 months old anyway (even if one of them woke up a gazillion times after that!)

Rosesareyellow · 28/09/2021 09:49

You don’t need to aim for a certain time - LO is three months old and I’m guessing you’re on maternity leave, do what pleases you! If you’re lucky enough to have such a young baby that sleeps all night I would not mess with that 😄 as a pp said, sleep regression may still come. Make the most of this!

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