DD friendship (DA warning)

[Leafytrees]

Looking for some advice about how to handle 6 yo DDs friendship. She's friends with a girl who's got several problems. The girl's dad has been violent towards her mum. I don't let DD go to her house alone because of this. This girl also struggles with confidence and bullies others. I'm trying to deal with that by encouraging DD not to copy and to play with kind children.

A close friend's daughter has just started being friends with this girl and is now going to her house alone to play. My inclination is to warn my friend, but part of me thinks it's nothing to do with me and I shouldn't gossip about others. I'm one of the only people who knows about the domestic violence. I would want someone to tell me, but equally it's not my place to say anything. Any advice would be really appreciated.

Well, I'm sure you've read the sad news recently. An innocent friend (they were all innocent) who was over her friends house for a sleepover was murdered along with the family she was staying with in Killamarsh.

You obviously need to tell your friend.

If you're sure there DA, tell your friend. Absolutely.

I hope that SS are also involved, please tell them too if they aren't already aware

Ah thank you for the advice. I hadn't seen the news about Killamarsh. That's such a sad and shocking story.

I know for certain that he assaulted her as the police and social services have been involved. He was also stalking her before she got back together with him. They've moved away from the place it happened as all the neighbours heard/saw these incidents and have put it behind them, so she's stopped talking to me about it since and just says everything's fine. She's a lovely lady and I feel really sorry for her but at the same time I really don't want to risk my daughter or anyone else's child.