When it gets easier with not so easy newborn and my toddler?

[OksanaI]

Hello all mums! I’m after your advice please. I have DS who is 4 years old and a newborn baby girl who is just 2.5 weeks old. She is formula fed and few days ago she got extremely gassy abs unsettled, plus her poop got very hard . She makes poop only once a day and struggle to make it. She is also a very hungry baby - eats every 2h and in the evenings every 1h . She cries a lot because of her being gassy and her poop problem. I don’t know what to do . Sometimes at nights she does not sleep for 3-4 h and I sit in the ball , bouncing her to sleep. When I finally try to put her down
She would grunt and wriggle and would be up again !
Daytime she prefers sleeping on me and that makes it very difficult for me to nap ! My husband helps me a lot with the older boy but I feel so guilty because if that , like im missing out on being with him .
Please tell me when it will get easier with the newborn stage ( I hate this stage ) ? Will my life be normal again soon ? Will I enjoy time with both Of them anytime soon ?

Hello, I have a 22 month gap and my youngest is now 10 months. It DOES get easier. I felt completely hopeless for the first few months. I think it was just exhaustion. DD has never slept through the night but once I got a few solid chunks of sleep in I started to feel more able to cope. I remember being so stressed by solo bedtime and bathtime (DH away a lot for work) but gradually we have settled into our own routine.
I found it was a big turning point when DD became mobile, as she was able to entertain herself a bit and wasn’t on the floor whinging. However DS was less happy with this development as she could take all his toys!
Just hang in there, this too shall pass and you will feel better.

As pp said, it will definitely pass! I used to feel the same way, but as your dd gets bigger, she will entertain herself. For me, things got easier at around 4-6 months. I know it's hard, but you will get through it

Christ I hope it gets easier. I have a 7 week old and a 2.10 year old. The baby only naps in a moving buggy or car seat - the moment the motion stops she wakes up. If she doesn’t nap she wails all day with overtiredness. I think my poor older daughter is desperate to start pre school just to get away from the screaming and boredom of having me stuck rocking a buggy all day!

Timeturnerplease
For us the same . Baby only naps on me and once afternoon comes the poor girl screams the house down because of gas and colic. I’m tired and overwhelmed as anything. Hopefully it will gets easier as I want to spend some quality time with my little boy aswell

With dc1, it started getting better when she turned 3 months. Almost overnight, she started babbling, which took the place of crying in some situations. She also really found her feet which was a serious source of entertainment, and she would reach for the toys on her play mat instead of just looking at them. This meant that I could sit down beside her with my laptop and catch up on bits and pieces. She slept for longer stretches at night because I don’t think she was as irritated by every pee and poo.

Is your eldest at school or nursery? That should give you a bit of time - I used to stick the baby in bed with me and have a nap. Make sure dad/other visitors give him plenty of fuss and try to give him a bit of time every day. I used to give baby to DH as soon as he walked through the door and do bedtime for my DS. A sling helped during the day so I was hands free to play with DS and it made park trips easier.

Have you spoke to your midwife/GP about her wind and poo? Sounds like she's really struggling. Does she have a dummy?

I found I hit a decent rhythm with two at about 2-3 months once baby DD got into a bit of a routine.

Following with interest. I have a 9 week old and 3yo. It's pretty challenging. DH had to work late yesterday and dinnertime was an absolute shit show as DS2 wanted to be held the whole time and would cry and cry for just being put down for a couple of minutes.

Like pp have said, I think things will get easier when they become more mobile and can entertain themselves. I'm counting down the days until wecan start weaning and all eat together in a peaceful manner again.

Things that have helped me are a dummy and a baby swing. It doesn't sound likemuch but,on a good day, DS2 will tolerate being in the swing for 10 minutes or so.

I have a 3 year old and 10 week old twins.

My advice, to make things easier on you. Is to find easier ways to comfort them. Obviously having twins and an older child I can’t walk around the room with both (one has colic), like I did with first DD who was the same. I have found it much less stressful to use bouncers/ swings, dummies, rocking the Moses basket, white noise playlists to settle them.

Basically they scream whether I am holding them or in the bouncer so I go with the easier option! Also we’ve had a bit of success with gripe water for my colicky twin. There’s also things you can look at like CMPA, reflux etc.

Hope it gets better for you soon.

I'd say when the youngest gets to school.

She has got a dummy but does not hold it for too long.
She is on Hipp organic since she was one week old and I’m not very sure if the formula agrees with her little tummy