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I need a break

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boyse4 · 25/09/2021 10:52

My ds is almost 15 months. Me and my partner have been on one date which lasted 2 hours (dinner) as he was only 3 months old and I just wanted to get back to him.

I have been out to the pub with friends once and was home by 11.

The guilt I feel for wanting some time away from him is huge, I lack in babysitters as my family is extremely busy and although they love me and ds massively which I would never question, they just don't have much time to help. I feel wrong to ask them to watch him for me as I know they're tired too.

My partner is happy to watch our son, would never cause an issue if I wanted to go somewhere, but he works self employed Monday - Saturday long days so he never has much time either and is tired too.

I'm drained. I'm not sure why I'm writing this! But I just feel like I would be a much better mum if I managed to look after myself too!

Anyone feeling the same and fancy a rant?!

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GoingOutOutNEVER · 25/09/2021 19:19

Can’t dp do something with DS on a Sunday so you can go out for a walk or coffee or just sit in the park enjoying the birds singing for ana while?

DominicRaabsTravelAgent · 26/09/2021 07:17

Definitely book a night out with your DF. One night of looking after his own child won't kill your DP.

As PP suggested, get him to take LO out at the weekend as well. Feed the ducks & go to the playground and library or take him swimming. You need time where you have a break from him and he needs time on his own with DS.

Have a look to see if there are any Dad and LO play sessions in your area as well. Our Children's Centre run a monthly one.

pumpkinpie01 · 26/09/2021 07:37

Does he go to nursery ? If so some of the staff there probably do babysitting in the evening

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Beline4u · 26/09/2021 08:16

Regardless of how hard your DP works, he has to take responsibility for his child. When there is an imbalance of support one parent suffers I.e. you!
Taken time off once and a while wont do your partner any harm. Each parent has equal responsibility otherwise you'll run yourself down. He doesn't "mind" his child he parents like you! You need to set aside time for you!
Trust me, after 4 kids being the SAHP, I learnt the hard way!

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