Bedroom sharing thoughts

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I was just wondering what peoples thoughts on bedroom sharing.

DS1 is 3yrs old and DS2 has just turned 8months.
We have a 3 bed house and originally had it set out so they each had their own room but DS1 is keen to share a room.

So my question is, does this actually work or is it going to cause disruption?

DS2 has hearing loss so isn't affected by the noises of turning over etc. But my concern is the disruption of DS1 being woke at 5.30am when DS2 has a feed.

Has room sharing worked well for anybody or should we just do the separate rooms?

Ours shared a room age 13 months and 3.5. 2 weeks of hell because baby wouldn't settle, followed by another month which was a bit unsettled but fine. 5 months later and it's an absolute dream. Both boys sleep well, wake up giggling and my almost 4 year old loves having his younger brother in his room to keep him company. They both sleep really well, asleep by 9 and up about 8.30 and I love to see them share, it's so cute. Sometimes I go in before bed just to look at them both sleeping. 🥰

Of course it works, many children have no choice but to share a room. It’s common.

Depending on how your older child sleeps, the feed might be fine. Mine sleeps like a log and slept through teething crying and his brother crying for a few mins when put in his cot

My 4 year old doesn't wake for anything so not disturbed by baby. 1 year old is woken by older one sometimes but not much. Tonight they have chosen to go to sleep on the floor (?) so they can be closer together!

My mum thinks I am depriving them somehow

We have a 3 bed but needed the box room as an office this year so it works out quite well

I have no choice but to let my 2 DC share a room (one is school age and other is toddler). There are pros and cons - it helps them bond, they spend more time together, they get put to bed at the same time mostly so there’s no challenging bed time.

However, because toddler is such a light sleeper, 4 out of 5 times in the week she wakes up when older DC wakes up for school. That’s the downside, that I have two kids to deal with early morning. I’d prefer toddler slept through until school run was done but it rarely happens!

My OH works nights so he’s home in the mornings and so I would prefer if the toddler stayed asleep rather than me have that extra body to deal with as the school mornings are stressful enough.

Thank you all for your replies. DH and I have bit the bullet and have moved them in together. Eldest is beyond excited so hopefully it'll work well.
Thank you for your help

Mine shared by necessity.
Yes it can be disruptive but it can also be very comforting.
If you use the other room for " distractions" such as toys/ clothing, and the bedroom just for sleeping, it's actually a bit of a bonus.

My dd's are 15 months apart and have always shared!! When ds was 6 his db arrived and he was keen to share too!! Only wanted his own room at 12!!

Mine shared out of necessity to begin with. My youngest was a bit older, I think about 9 or 10 months before we moved him in with his brother.

I had two boys, then two girls. All fairly close in age. So yes, when they were preschool age the boys shared a room, and we made the other bedroom their playroom. We did the same with the girls when they came along. I think some small children can be afraid at night if by themselves. I know many times in the morning, I’d find one cuddled up with the other for comfort. Once they were both in primary school, they started to want their own room....at first as a place they could go without their brother/sister and be with school friends. But it was also around then they had developed interests of their own and so a play room with shared toys had turned into very distinct this is mine and that is my brother’s or sisters item.

My sister and I shared a bedroom at first when we were babies. It worked well for a year and a half then I got bored and wanted my own bedroom.

My ds and dd (twins) shared until they were almost 12 and never had a problem. They frequently used to fight during the day but I would hear them quite happily chatting and giggling with each other at night! I yhink sharing can be a really positive experience (although everyone is different).

My kids have shared from 12m and 24m. They are now 3 and 4 and apart from being buggers at bed time, all is good. The 4 year old tends to tantrum a lot at bed time and the 3 year old sleeps through it

Mine all shared a room from around those ages until they went off to university.

I'm on the brink of going cold turkey with my 21 month old ds. Don't offer don't refuse has been useless because he just asks constantly. It's a big comfort thing, day and night so I've been very reluctant to bite this bullet. But he only feeds from one side now and it is agony to keep feeding since he bit me a while back. I think we'll have to just push through a few tricky days and long nights and hope it will be worth it...

Sorry wrong thread!