DS (5) struggling to make friends at new school. Advice please

[yoyoman]

We have moved to a new area and DS has started a new school.
He hasn't really made any new friends. I am thinking of trying to get a few play dates arranged but the other school mums are all in little cliques
I have tried to speak with a few but I get short answers and then nothing.
They all know we are new at the school but No one really approaches me to start convo and I don't way to be annoying by trying to talk them again and again

I'm new to this all. Can you please advise me how to go about this ?

Thank you

Dd5 is also at a new school. I’ve half smiled at a few mums but have mainly been focussed on settling dd in.

We do have a class WhatsApp group which is useful for finding info/asking questions/lost property! Could you ask one of the mums if there is one for the class. Once your ds mentions a few dc he likes playing with you can find their number through the chat and dm them to arrange a playdate.

Does your ds have a birthday coming up? Having a party is a good way to break the ice with the kids and parents.

Have to be honest, my other dd is older and I’m not too bothered about meeting other mums now except for dd’s sake. Try to smile and be friendly, have a bit of small talk but it might take a while to break into the groups that already exist. It’s not that people are being mean I just think sometimes they can’t be bothered too much in the nicest way. It’s nothing personal and I do think after a few months it’ll be easier once you’re more familiar and their kids get to know yours.

Thank you @manywildhorses. So kind of you to take the time to reply.
I completely get it, its not personal and I yoo wbat to mix in for DS sake.
I will ask one of the mums if there is a WhatsApp group. And yes, he has a birthday coming up soon.

I’d suggest sending your son to an out of school club e.g. Beavers or Football. It will give him an extra chance to make new friends and build his confidence, and you might find it easier to get in with some of the other mums,

The birthday is perfect! Have a party, and then you'll get the other mums contact details. Then, you can invite them to tea individually.