I have a DS who is 12. I love him to bits but I cannot handle his attitude and behaviour. Every single day without fail there will be an argument which he will cause.
Yesterday as a sterling example I text him asking him to come home from school to get changed before he went to a youth club (Not an unreasonable request) but he point blank refused and every time I asked he would just respond with NO and then when I told him he's going to end up losing his phone and being grounded he simply responds with 'well I just won't come back from school and il still go do what I want and you won't be able to track me without my phone' (we have life360) so of course I was fuming. I couldn't go and fetch him as younger DC is full of cold and had just got out the bath and I was waiting for shopping to be delivered. By around half 6 I started with chest pain (muscular thank god) and DS STILL wouldn't come home. My mum messaged him telling him to get home now as I had to go to the local hospital and he STILL didn't come home until AFTER I was allowed to leave the hospital around 8pm. By the time he got home my mum was here and she had a go at him because of his selfishness and entitled behaviour.
I rang my child 16 times and spent hundreds of messages all of which he mainly ignored.
He is under CAMHS and first assessment/meeting is next month but my god I cannot live like this forever.
This morning he started on his BS again because I told him he was to be home for 3:30 and that he was grounded. I've taken the phone away from him and he left for school at half 6 this morning! He doesn't start til half 8!
He doesn't understand or should I say he doesn't care because he does understand that he's making me feel low and affecting me, he never listens to me, he never does as he's told and he genuinely believes that everyone 'owes' him and that he can do whatever he likes, whenever he likes.
This has been going on for a long time but I can't deal with it anymore. I genuinely feel like I've failed as a mum to him.