Dreading grandparents week!

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My dd's school have grandparents week every year where grandparents are invited to the classrooms over zoom culminating in an end of week celebration where grandparents are invited. My dd's grandpa's are long dead and her maternal and paternal granny's are both in care homes, my mum with advanced dementia. I know this will upset my dd, she has ASD too. Isn't this a little unfair and discriminating of the school?

Yes it is. What an awful idea. I really feel for your dd.

I think it is completely out of order , that said do you not have an aunt / uncle / neighbour that could stand in as honorary grandparent if it would make your daughter feel better about it .

Your dd won't be the only child to be in this situation. Pretty thoughtless of the school.

My DC have 4 healthy GP who wouldn’t touch zoom with a barge pole and although would have affected an in person event pre-Covid, definitely wouldn’t at the moment.

She really won’t be the only one OP. It’s shitty of the school if there’s not something staying a great Aunt/Uncle/ family friend etc would be welcome. Some children won’t have any GP living or in their lives at all.

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This is pretty crap of the school.

Most schools would be fine with a substitute - aunt, friend, etc. I don't think these activities should be banned, just modified to be inclusive.

Thanks all ! Thought I was being unreasonable

This would upset DD and me! How thoughtless of the school.

Yes it’s thoughtless and i would be telling the school

If they insist on going ahead I would insist on my child being removed for that session

My children's grandparents wouldn't be able to attend either. My mum died, dads shit and the in-laws are both poorly or disabled. It is shit but I think I'd see if I had a different family member or friend to stand in as a treat

I think this is an absolute disgrace. What a bizarre thing to do. I would raise this with the school I think. It will leave many kids feeling out of it and pretty crap.

Thankfully we are still (just) out of the school.age range at the moment, but the more I hear about primaries, the more baffled I am by their complete ignorance of modern family life! We are fortunate that my DC have 4 fit and healthy grandparents, plus one step-grandma. However, out of that 5, 2 still work full-time and all 5 live many hours away (2 on the other side of the world). Likewise, DH and I work full-time and will not be able to drop into school for assemblies and reading schemes or frankly even pick-up. I don't remember all this nonsense when I was at school, even though I suspect far more parents had one SAH at the time. I think it must have started creeping in towards the end of my time at school because I remember my mum (a teacher) getting very annoyed at the schools expecting parents to be ever-present and fully involved in all school events, whilst simultaneously requiring their staff to abandon their own children and families (I remember her muttering darkly "all children matter unless they are the child of a staff member").