No preschool and joining Reception

[Sarajessgirl]

My DD is 3 years old and has joined preschool this month. I am a SAHM and feels I need to spend more time with her before she starts school next year. Is skipping preschool and going straight to reception a good idea ?

How much large-group socialising has she done as a pandemic toddler? If she doesn’t hate it 2-3 mornings a week will help her and you will still have plenty of time together

@Letsallscreamatthesistene what's your problem?

I had a nice time with my happy kids, that's all. I was just posting a little comment, do you have to be a pick pick pick person?

Personally I think a bit of pre school helps and gives them a chance to socialise with other children. You don’t have to go full time though, a few mornings or days would be enough.

Part time hours are a good compromise. I think at 3 they need a bit of time away from parents.
I don’t think keeping at home will disadvantage her when she starts school but I do think she’ll be missing out on the social interaction and friendships preschool can offer.
Plus most preschools do activities I don’t do at home because they are too messy or I find too dull…

[quote lannistunut]@Letsallscreamatthesistene what's your problem?

I had a nice time with my happy kids, that's all. I was just posting a little comment, do you have to be a pick pick pick person?[/quote]
I dont have a problem. Im sure you did have a nice time. I dont think theres any need to get into an argument over this.

Just to add that although of course you don't have to send her, DD went for her 15 hours, so 2 days from 9 till 3 and she absolutely loved it.

It also meant that I could get the cleaning & shopping done so that we had more time doing enjoyable things together

@Letsallscreamatthesistene OK.

I just meant it'll be fine of they don't go to preschool as they don't do anything magic at preschool, they do what engaged parents do at home - socialisation, basic numbers/letters, games.

@MinesAPintOfTea

How much large-group socialising has she done as a pandemic toddler? If she doesn’t hate it 2-3 mornings a week will help her and you will still have plenty of time together

I think this is a good question and definitely worth considering. Her toddler years haven't allowed the same experience for socialisation that older children will have had. A few days in pre-school will be really beneficial.

Former Reception teacher here - I'd definitely keep her in pre-school. It's only a few hours a day and you still have all the rest of the time to be with her. My ds has just started pre-school and I'm a sahm so I do get where you're coming from emotionally though! I just focus on all the fun we have in the afternoon. They get so much out of pre-school.

Preschool will be good for her, and also you.
It's good for them to socialise and spend some time away from parents.
It's only normally couple mornings a week so you aren't loosing a lot of time and if anything will make the afternoons more special for you.
It'll do you good to have a couple of hours to yourself once your used to it.

Is she not just there for 3 hours a day? There are loads of other hours to spend with her. I feel nursery teaches them a lot, socially as well as the foundations for school and missing that makes starting reception more difficult. I think you need to prioritise your DDs needs over your own here and make sure you decide based on what is best for her, not you.

missing that makes starting reception more difficult

I support everyone's right to do precisely what they wish but there is no evidence to back this up where the home environment is positive

You can't extrapolate from society as a whole because some homes are not a positive environment.