Finding it hard to make/keep friends at school

[NicJul]

My son is a really lovely boy - honest - but is finding it really hard to make friends at school. Other children often say to him they don't want to be his friend or play with him. He is six years old and not as boisterous as the other boys - but isn't a wimp. He has a good sense of humour and enjoys life but isn't agressive. He gets on very well with a few friends he knows out of school. I really worry about it as I had similar problems at school. He just hasn't got it in him to answer back. I do everything to build up his confidence, he does lots of sport - swimming, karate and tennis and regularly meets up with friends. Would love advice from anyone who has been through this.

Thanks so much

It's not the after-school thing - I could live with that. Just he says no-one wanted to play with him at break-time, even when he asked if he could join in. Also they say they don't want to be his friend.It wouldn't worry me so much but it upsets him.

I haven't cos it's not really bullying or meanness, so I didn't think she could really do anything about it.

i had exactly the same problem with my dd1 (5 at the time) she would come home from school saying no-one wanted to play with her etc and i would feel my heart break.

i spoke to the teacher who said she had not noticed any problems but would keep a eye on it, next day i sneaked down to the school to find dd1 running around in a big group of friends laughing and shreiking.

when i picked her up from school and asked her how her day had been she told me that no one wanted to play with her and she sat alone in the play ground

i think she had got so used to all the attention i was giving her when i thought that she was having a horrible time at school iykwim.

now i have to walk through the play ground every lunch time to drop dd2 in nursery and i can see that there really is no problem.

Thanks for the reassurance. I think they are all drama queens!

Guess I just needed some perspective.