Can anyone help? Im starting to worry about my nearly 5 yr old son. He is a loving and sweet boy but sometimes very defiant.. but couple things are starting to proper worry me. Sometimes i can hear him in the garden and he gets very loud and screaming to his little brother things like 'im gonna smash you' and the like.. i also saw him few days ago picking up snails and stamping on them. I was really horrified and pulled him inside. He didnt know i was watching and would never do that if he knew i could see, which is what bothers me. Today, and pls no judgement as im really upset with it, but i found my 8 month old had been sprayed with disinfectant which i had stupidly left in reach in the bathroom. I took the baby to hospital and it seems there has been a huge amount sprayed in his eyes. Pls i know he shouldn't have access to this and i dont need to be told about that.. it was a momentary lapse and i was downstairs for just a moment so pls dont make me feel worse about this. . just I am devastated my son could do this to the baby as surely he knew he was hurting him.. he immediately blamed his little brother. Tonight i had a quiet calm chat and he admitted, with some gentle questioning, he had sprayed a little bit.. But i just cant stop worrying and i dont know how to deal with these things. I cant help but worry he is showing signs of problems starting, we have had a tough year with me and his father.. his father left for about a year but stayed in regular contact but is now back. I dont know if he has been a bit damaged by all that.. my natural instinct is to just give him more love but then i wonder if he needs more discipline. I really dont know what angle to come at him with right now can anyone give me any advice non judgemental please