Potty training advice

[mummybear2918]

I started potty training a week ago today and first day was a disaster but was to be expected. DD is doing pee on the potty but only if I'm setting her on she will go but she won't tell me she needs to go so she is having 2-3 accidents a day. I'm always asking and she keeps saying no. She's 3 next month

Oh crap method!
Also do not ask, let her know she should tell you but you keep putting her on the potty “right let’s go to the potty”…doesn’t matter if she does anything, no pressure but honestly young kids don’t know when they need to go until too late. Put her on the potty before you go out etc. You will start to know how long she can go between wees, how long after a drink etc.

Can I ask whether this was initiated by herself or by you? Of course, it's completely child dependent. but I tried potty training my son (who turned 3 this May) for 6 months with no luck. 2 months before his 3rd birthday, so in March, he did it by himself with no prompting from myself or my partner.

He's fully potty trained now (except at night, but that's due to the appropriate hormones not being developed yet)

Second the Oh Crap method. We've just done this with my 2 year old and @mummybear2918 we were in the exact same situation as you - all wees etc that were done on the potty were because I told her to go to the potty. However, we are three weeks in now and last week something clicked and she now initiates every time and hasn't had an accident for a week. I'd give it a bit longer and try not to keep asking her as this could annoy her and put her off, but instead make it part of the routine (before eating, after, before nap, after, when leaving someone, arriving etc) and at other times I'd just say right it's time to use the potty then we will eat lunch. Sometimes she did, sometimes she didn't.

That actually sounds like she's doing okay considering: 1. It's not been long
2. She's only having 2/3 accidents a day.

Keep putting her in the potty when you think she's ready, she will eventually try and hold it a bit more, even if she does not self initiate. It does take a while for them to do that.

Don't expect it tonhapoen overnight, the books lie when they say you can do it in three days or a week