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PlanetTeaTime · 2021-09-11T11:00:20+00:00

Ok so I don't have to worry too much at the moment because my daughter is on a baby but what are your thoughts on Father Christmas? I really don't want to lie to my daughter but is it unfair of me not to? My mum lied to me but she was rubbish at it and I figured it out from a very young age. Which is almost worse to be honest. Thoughts please? Particularly want to hear from the parents that feel uncomfortable with the lying? What did you do?

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TheLovelinessOfDemons · 12/09/2021 13:23

Each DC gets/got 2 big presents, one from us and one from Father Christmas. Only the youngest still believes, he's 10. If he still believes next summer I'll have to break it to him gently. He also believes that his bear's alive.

MissMaple82 · 12/09/2021 20:28

Wow I bet your house is filled full of fun!!!

Bobholll · 12/09/2021 21:32

These posts are depressing. Santa is a magical, wonderful thing. I will never forget the sheer excitement of realising ‘he’d been’ on Christmas morning. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that level of excitement since! When I realised he wasn’t real, I wasn’t cross with my parents. I was actually incredibly grateful they made my childhood Christmases so magical as long as they did.

Santa in our house brings the stockings & a sack of gifts that we’ve brought. Presents from family & friends are from them. So my daughters know they are from them & their value in that sense.

I hope my little ones enjoy the magic as much as I did. I do not for a moment feel like I’m lying to my daughters. It’s all part of childhood & fantasy & make belief. I spent this morning pretending there was a polar bear in the bushes in our garden. Was I lying, yes. Was it a bad thing? No at all.

purpleme12 · 12/09/2021 21:45

@Bobholll

These posts are depressing. Santa is a magical, wonderful thing. I will never forget the sheer excitement of realising ‘he’d been’ on Christmas morning. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that level of excitement since! When I realised he wasn’t real, I wasn’t cross with my parents. I was actually incredibly grateful they made my childhood Christmases so magical as long as they did.

Santa in our house brings the stockings & a sack of gifts that we’ve brought. Presents from family & friends are from them. So my daughters know they are from them & their value in that sense.

I hope my little ones enjoy the magic as much as I did. I do not for a moment feel like I’m lying to my daughters. It’s all part of childhood & fantasy & make belief. I spent this morning pretending there was a polar bear in the bushes in our garden. Was I lying, yes. Was it a bad thing? No at all.

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expectinglittlebear · 13/09/2021 15:07

I don't have any DC just yet, but am currently pregnant with my first. However, I already know what we are going to be doing with regard to FC.

Christmas has always been such a magical time when I was growing up, and every year on christmas eve, we would put out carrots and brandy and mince pies.. then on christmas morning by dad used to get both me and my little sister to sit at the top of the stairs and he will go downstairs and see if 'santa has been'.. we would both go downstairs to a christmas tree all lit up, fire raging, presents all under the tree, christmas music on, and a hot chocolate waiting for us.. and the treats were gone / been eaten into. It was such a magical time as a child...

There were presents under the tree from mum & dad, as well as santa.. which meant we never questioned why there were no presents from parents. When both me and sister got to school years 5 / 6, we were questioning and mum and dad were honest with us.

Therefore, I aim to continue this tradition with my own children. Keep the magic of christmas, but ensure that if they ask questions we are honest with them, and if they don't ask questions before year 6/high school, to sit down and have a talk to tell them about it all - wouldn't want them going into secondary school with the ideas that FC is real, and get bullied for it!

I think Christmas is such a wonderful magical time, and children shouldn't miss out on that.

Emmacb82 · 13/09/2021 15:46

I love the magic of Christmas and so Father Christmas is real in our house. Children are young for such a short time and I’m not scarred from finding out he wasn’t real after all!
We only do stockings and stick a mince pie and carrot out. I’ll enjoy it however long it lasts.

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PlanetTeaTime · 14/09/2021 07:08

Some of these comments are hilarious

It is a lie. You are telling them something you know is not real, is real. That is quite clearly lying.

I like the idea of it being playing pretend, then we can enjoy it together still.

Well thanks for your input everyone.

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Worldgonecrazy · 14/09/2021 07:17

I never lied. I have promised my daughter I will never lie to her and that is a big promise, difficult times but so far we have managed.

So for Father Christmas I explained it that he was the embodiment of the spirit of Christmas, all the joy and fun, generosity and magic, rolled into one, and I still absolutely believe in him.

Trinacham · 14/09/2021 07:25

I'm so glad my parents knew the difference between a lie and a white lie. Father Christmas was one of the most magical parts of my childhood. I think i believed until I was about 12! I had older siblings who carried it on for me and didn't ruin it.
I'm not a parent yet, but will be next year, and I will definitely be telling the white lie to my little one, when he's old enough. I still remember the excitement I felt and can't wait to see my child experience it too.

cactijones · 14/09/2021 07:25

Please tell your children abouy Father Christmas. It's what Xmas is about! It's not a bad lie ids a lovely lie. I always feel so sorry for kids who weren't allowed to believe, they normally spoilt it for the other kids on the playground too and ids just not fair

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