What time do you let your 14 year olds out until?

[champagnetruffleshuffle]

My daughter has a nice group of friends, that look out for one another. She has location switched on, on her phone so I can see where she is. We live in a small to medium sized rural town. And I'm trying to allow her freedom as much as i feel comfortable.

Currently the fair is in town and on Friday she wants to stay out until 10.30 pm and come home with three friends to stay here.

I want her home by 10pm but she is saying all the other people in the group will be out until 11.30pm (they were allowed last Friday too) and she will miss out on some of the fun. Also she says if i insist on 10pm then she thinks her friends won't want that so she'll be coming home alone. (I'm guessing she won't go at all in this case although that hasn't been said)

What would you do/ do you do with your teens in this kind of situation?

Thanks!

If she has been trustworthy so far I would let her stay out until 10:30 it's only an extra half an hour and not worth fighting over. That's me though and you have to do what you think is best. Parenting is hard and who ever guessed it would get harder as they get older

Let her stay out. If you don't, you're telling her you don't trust her. And really, what's she going to get up to in that extra half hour?

I'd tell he she either gets home by the time I want her to be or she doesn't go at all.

Our 15 year old has not been let out that late without an adult. She can do as she pleases when she's an adult, until then my house my rules.

I'd let her go and stay out until 10.30pm. She'll be fine, there's safety in numbers too and she is with her friends who are coming back to yours.

8pm if coming home with her friends and 9pm if I'm picking her and her friends up

Thank you for the replies. It definitely is getting harder!
I'm kind of pushing my limit a bit already and would have preferred 9.30. I thought i was being lenient with 10! It's not that i don't trust her, it's that 10.30 is getting closer to pub kick out time, it's Friday night and I worry about others.
Picking her up is a good point.