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One boy and one girl - what's it like?

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Lsjdjfjdh · 04/09/2021 20:44

I'm due my second in November and am due a little boy. I already have a 2 year old girl and originally thought this baby would be another girl (not sure why - I think just because I've already got one and can't see myself with a boy now I'm used to a girl!)
A few people I've spoke to have said it's nice having two of the same sex...what's it like having one of each? Do they get on and have things in common? (We aren't having any more children).

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HerRoyalRisesAgain · 04/09/2021 20:49

I have 2 boys and a girl, but one of my boys is much older.

DD and DS2 have 19 months between them and they are incredibly close. They're best friends, play together, enjoy the same stories, watch the same TV shows. I'm not one for saying "this is for girls, this is for boys" toys are just toys, so they play babies and cars, barbie and toy soldiers, dress up and wrestle.
It's great.

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Lsjdjfjdh · 04/09/2021 20:52

@HerRoyalRisesAgain that's lovely to hear. Good point about having a range of 'boy' and 'girl' toys and they just play with whatever they want, having access to both.

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Buttons294749 · 04/09/2021 20:54

Mine are still small but like a lot of the same things and then have some other personal interests. Their personalities are quite different but they get on well and play sweetly/fight evenly now haha

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Aria2015 · 04/09/2021 20:55

I have a boy and a girl but it's too soon to tell if they'll get on! I will say though that I'm super close to my brother so brother/ sister relationships can be really close and special.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/09/2021 20:55

Wonderful for me. My son is 24 years old and my daughter is 22. They adore each other and have since my daughter was born.

Borland · 04/09/2021 20:57

I have a brother 18 months younger than me, we always got on well growing up and now we are adults I consider him one off my closest friends :) It completely depends on your children's personalities though, I know plenty of people with the same or different sex siblings who don't get on and plenty that do. So it's really nothing to do with what sex they are.

Blitzes · 04/09/2021 20:58

I have 2 boys and a girl but DS1 is 9 whereas DS2 is 3 and DD is turning two in November. DS2 and DD are almost like twins they’re little best friends. So close. I’m a sahm currently so they spend most days together and it’s just so lovely

sandycloud · 04/09/2021 20:59

I have a girl then boy about 2 years younger. I would say they got on ok. My friend has 2 girls the same age and they fight really bad. They are both older teens now. They are really good with each other now. I have quite different relationships with them but love them both. I have sometimes thought it would be easily having 2 the same sex but not sure I think that now. I always remember my son getting dressed up as princesses. He's so mortified about it now.

carolinesbaby · 04/09/2021 21:01

I have a brother very close
In age to me. We have nothing in common, never did. We used to get very annoyed that people thought we should be best mates because we are so close in age. We fought a lot as teens, and though friendly now we are not particularly close.
I have 2 DSD with 2 years between them. They're like chalk and cheese, nothing in common and fought like cat and dog as kids. Still not close.
My DS and DD have about 5 years between them. Perfectly cheerful and friendly between themselves but the age gap is showing more now DD is a teen.
What I'm saying is that having one of each or two the same is no guarantee, they have their own personalities.

Indecisivelurcher · 04/09/2021 21:05

I was the same as you op, totally convinced I was having another girl until my 20wk scan! There are 2yrs 6m between my girl and boy. They are 6 and 4 now. They are like chalk and cheese in some respects and peas in a pod in others, generally they get on really well, play for hours, and look after each other. Of course they have their moments, and I'm sure they won't always be this close, but I'm glad they've got each other to share childhood.

Antsinyourpanta · 04/09/2021 21:05

I have a girl and a boy (15 and 11) They got on well til they were about 9 and 6, but now they bicker a lot and dont have much in common. She views him as a continual annoyance, but weve had a brief reprieve in the last few weeks with a family holiday where they tolerated each other better than usual, and she has been good with him starting secondary school.
Having said all that I love having one of each. They are so so different although I'm sure all siblings are regardless of gender. I do feel i had an easier time of toddlerhood with DD - DS was literally like a whirlwind leaving destruction wherever he went! 🤣

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