Second baby guilt

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Recently had my second baby, I’m
Just overwhelmed with guilt for my firstborn. We don’t get as much time together, we don’t do as many fun things, I’m always tired. I know he misses me and I’m just feeling so guilty.

DS has just turned 2, I feel overwhelmed taking him the park or doing fun things in case I can’t control him & look after a newborn. I’m thinking of getting a baby carrier to see if that helps with getting out and about.

Does this pass?

Any tips?

Thanks I’m advance

Guilt is a normal part of motherhood. You feel bad about DC1 now but soon they'll be pushing/hitting/biting the baby and it's DC2 you'll feel bad about, so I guess it balances out?

Yes it will pass & definitely get a baby carrier.

Completely normal. A sling is a great idea, my DC2 pretty much lived in one for the first 3 months, really helps. Even 5 minutes of decent play and attention will make the difference and it does get easier. You've got this.

Same happened to me. Felt so guilty I could cry. Trust me, it does get better with time. Now, 18months in, I can easily split my time between the two. The baby carrier is definitely very useful too :-) xx

I felt like this too, my eldest wasn't the slightest bit interested in having a sibling either and completely ignored the fact a newborn was in our lives.
However, in time, once baby started to interact more and sit up then crawl then walk, etc, they both got on well and because one would nap/be at nursery/ go to bed earlier/ get up later etc there was always time for 1-2-1 for each of them. In time things slot into place and you'll find things to do together and you'll wonder why you felt guilty. Don't worry it will pass.