CMS and Court?!

[emmaelizabethx]

Hi,

My ex has said he is taking me to court because I have gone through CMS for child maintenance payments.

He reckons he has paid £600 for someone to also come and ask me why I think this is acceptable.

I think he's talking out his arse. Is this a thing and could he actually take me to court for going through child maintenance?? I feel like he's trying to scare me into closing the case.

I’m no expert but he’s talking out of his arse!
Taking you to court for what exactly?? You are perfectly entitled to contact CMS if he’s buggering about with maintenance.

Yes he's talking out of his arse
Ignore

That’s the funniest thing I’ve read in ages OP, what a complete twat He’s talking bollocks

Taking you to court for what? Could he mean for 50/50 so he doesn’t have to pay?

@PumpkinKlNG

Taking you to court for what? Could he mean for 50/50 so he doesn’t have to pay?

There is no chance of him going 50/50, he can barely manage his 4 nights a month 😂 he just says that he shouldn't have to pay it because he has too many outgoing and won't be left with enough money... he also does have 3 cars and a fancy house. We tried arranging it ourselves but every time I asked him for contributions towards uniform, childcare etc he would go mad. Last time he told me to sell my dog and came and punch my doorbell 😂 i just don't know whether I need to start planning for if he actually can take me to court or just brush it off

He can’t take you to court for going through child maintenance, child maintenance is literally there for when dickheads like him won’t pay. I’d just ignore. And definitely carry on going through CMS to get payments from him!

What a total MORON 😂😂

Why do people DO shit like this?! He should be so ashamed of himself. I would be telling everyone and laughing at him for being such a stupid useless twat.

He is now saying that he's taking me to court to get it in writing that he wants the kids every other Christmas Eve and so there's no more arguments. I'm unsure as to whether he's just having a laugh or something cos this is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard considering he's the one who threatens me and my dog when I ask him to do anything for the kids 🙈

The judge wouldn’t like man demanding every other Christmas Eve when he barely manages to stick to the bare minimum contact and doesn’t pay child support. Yes I know they’re separate things but Judges take dim views of men who don’t pay.

Just ignore this stuff. Don't engage.

I’d ask him if he knows how much court costs considering he’s a tight arse

My exDPs bill was in excess of 10K (his ExW was V.UR/controlling/ and it was definitely worth the expense).

Honestly ... keep the claim with CMA going and ignore him.

Loads of men throw this bull shit at women once they realise they need to actually financially contribute towards their children. He is losing control and will pretty much say and do anything not to lose it.

Any physical or threatening behaviour report it to the police. Each.and.every.time. You may need this in the future.

Lastly, ignore absolutely everything he sends/says/texts unless it is 100% about the children. Ignore Ignore Ignore.

As one very wise MN said to me 'silence speaks louder than words'

He's talking shit about cms and court. You're entitled to maintenance, they will calculate it on his income so it doesn't matter about his outgoings I don't think?

Regarding every other Xmas eve. My partner was given that in court and half of every school holidays etc

So was my ex but he was also given 40% of the rest of the year too, which is what he asked for. Asking for just Christmas Ever is a piss take.

My ExH rejected my offer to see our baby every weekend for a day, with me these due to breastfeeding, said it was too much and he’d take to me court to see baby once a month. That was 5 years ago, he still hasn’t seen our child or taken me to court for less than what I was offering

The guy does pay.. but bare minimum and everytime I ask for extra contributions or for him to have the kids on days that aren't his set days kicks up a stink.. that's the only reason he asked for Xmas Eve, was because I asked what he would be able to contribute to childcare as my son is disabled and his special needs school doesn't do any out of hours clubs. I gave him the whole list of school holidays at the beginning of the year and he didn't have them in any.. apart from he had to isolate once with them for 10 days, if it wasn't for covid ge wouldn't have had them longer than the set 2 days. He also just had the cheek to ring me and say it's my fault my son has additional needs. Happy days. To say I'm disgusted is an understatement. I just don't know what to do. Kind of want to back down so he leaves me alone but he did this last time, just bullies until he gets what he wants..

He can't bully someone who doesn't engage.

In a way I hope this reaches court so the judge can wipe the floor with him.

It might do you a favour as I know the judge will be doing his utmost to support you supporting your children, especially with additional needs.

The reality is CMS will sort out payments. Start keeping a record of the exact nights , not the days, the children stay over. If it differs for each child log this too. As I expect he'll be challenging the amount of maintenance he'll be wanting to pay.