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Question regarding parenting / adoption / after a separation

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Ele01 · 31/08/2021 21:18

Hi everyone. I have posted a couple of threads regarding my situation on had loads of good advice and recommended to different posting boards etc. I’m just interested in others opinions from outside of situations for example:

If you heard that a ‘Dad’ and ‘husband’ had been in child’s life since months old and the child is now 10/11 years old and the child calls them Dad and knows nothing different as in they do not remember their biological dad as they were only months old and one day when that child was 10/11 years old. That child is also officially adopted by the Dad so all officially legal aswell as and then that dad just went out of the child's life after a divorce / just a total cut off to child.
What would you think of this man as from a potential partner or someone that has kids for example and heard this from someone like me just telling you the above.
Would you except the excuses? And if so what would you accept or would you except nothing? X

I just would like please other outsiders perspectives on this x

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Jumpingintosummer · 31/08/2021 21:23

I wouldn’t go near him. To me adopting is the same as a bio child, they are your child. Anyone who can walk away off their own bat isn’t for me.

Ele01 · 05/09/2021 11:41

@Jumpingintosummer I agree. Even if you heard stories of their side only saying their ex wife was ‘crazy’ and ‘abusive ...would you think well then why are not even involved with the child if it’s that bad?

And yes I agree also bio and adopted is the same although my ex was ok for years to say ‘our’ child etc and now to him it’s now only ‘legal’
I don’t know if that’s just to cut off emotionally to make it easier while he walked away from child after divorce etc but it’s a crappy way to be to a child isn’t it?

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