How to take baby out when all they do is cry?

[MikeWozniaksGloriousTache]

2 week old baby I know it’s early days but I also know I need to get out the bloody house. The only problem is she screams every time she is put down. I can’t do slings / carriers due to back pain and she just screams whenever she is in her pram. She’s fed, changed, winded etc. Possibly bit of trapped wind but has been on infacol for a few days. Sometimes even when she is being held she screams, I think this because she wants to comfort suck / cluster feed but that’s all she wants to do and it’s not sustainable. She was physically on the breast for 6 hours yesterday none stop, every time she either removed herself or I removed her from flutter sucking she screamed. My DP will be back at work soon and I’ll have to get out the house twice w day to take the dog out. Please don’t berate me if I’m missing something I’m already feeling shit as I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing.

I used to have to sing walking up the street with my son in the pram when he was little. Felt like a bit of a loon but if I stopped singing he cried. They can’t see well at that age so I guess it reassured him I was still there? My other two always loved going out in the pram but my middle one was more tricky with lots of things, he got much better in the pram after a couple of months old so hopefully things will improve for you too (although I know every day can seem to last forever with a crying baby 🙈)

I forgot to say, if no sling works out, you could try a cot wedge in the pram, to prop her up a bit (would help if reflux is causing the crying).

Thanks all. I don’t think I’d mind the cluster feeding so much if I could get into a position I was comfortable in. DD is teeny and by boobs are massive and nipples practically point into my stomach so it’s so difficult to get her to latch properly. Hopefully this clinic will help.

Will defo try getting out with her tomorrow regardless of crying for my mental health as I feel like it’s tanking a bit. The breastfeeding is the main cause of that like as I’m utterly struggling with it, but some fresh air with the pup will help.

Will defo keep an eye on the allergy / cmpa thing and speak to gp once she is registered tomorrow.

Thank you everyone for your help and support. It means a lot x

Congrats Op! I think you need to start eliminating potential issues. Personally i'd start with taking her to a chiropractor who specialises in peds, could be your DD has something slightly out of place which is causing pain when being put down.

Congrats on your baby. Newborns are hard work!

I had a CMPA baby who was combi fed. He didn't gain weight, but he'd also scream the house down and vomit after any formula feed. It was such a vicious cycle. He'd have the formula to help the weight but then throw it all up. He was fine on just breastmilk though.

Does the crying happen more often after a bottle or is there no pattern? Could you try without formula for a day or two to see if there is any link?

I'm not sure where you're based but have a look at your local NCT branch. Many are restarting their in person groups. I run one called bumps and babies. It's a very friendly group where new parents can just come and be. It's fine if baby screams through the whole session. We don't care. No one there cares because we've all been through it. See if you can find something similar locally to give you a place to go.

Do you have a cushion or pillow to feed with? Even just a normal bed or sofa cushion can work well. It's just something to prop up your arm really to rest the baby on, can help a lot.

Deffo worth trying a dummy. If suckling is giving her comfort then it's a good thing to try for pram trips.

Football/rugby ball hold is a good one for big breasts and awkward latches if you haven't tried that yet.

Awww OP you're doing all the right things! Rugby hold was the only way my baby would latch with my big boobs. I'd have to hold the boob with my other hand and squish my boob flat in his nouth and just stay stuck like that. Gotta have snacks, huge bottle of water and the tv remote nearby! Once mine got older laying down feeding was the only way I'd be able to rest while cluster feeding.

Dummy. I was very much against them but DS1 was so much better better with one and then thumb sucked from about 12 weeks. I don’t know how mums think they are going to manage longer term if they can’t put the baby down.

Just to let you all know we managed a walk today! She was relatively content when we put her in the pram. She grizzled a bit but seemed quite content and awake until about half way. Ignored the crying for a while and sang to her (turns out she likes mighty boosh songs ) until she was a bit hysterical, stopped and gave her a quick cuddle and put her back, and she slept the rest of the way home. Feel so much better for getting out. Thanks for all the advice.

Awr that's great news op!
A walk does everyone good!

I had to do this with my then baby (he's 8 now). Screamed, cried at everything - being still, being picked up, not moving fast enough, wind too strong etc. But absolutely, he was at his worst when I tried to just sit down. Scream scream, fucking scream. So I'd like leave the house at 6am (he's wake at 4am, and I'd hold him in my.arms.for two hours just walking back and forth, back and forth in the flat) until 6am. Then I'd wrap his arms up tight, out him in the buggy, and speed walk from 6am outside until about 9am or so, when he's nap.for 30 minutes. Then another almost 3 hours of speed walking etc, hard buggy rocking, and so on. Absoulte. Fucking. Hell.

God I hope it was Soup, soup, A tasty soup, soup, A spicy (carrot and coriander)! Your DD has taste 😂 well done you!!!

@AliceW89

God I hope it was Soup, soup, A tasty soup, soup, A spicy (carrot and coriander)! Your DD has taste 😂 well done you!!!

It was more “bouncy bouncy having such a good time” as she was being bopped around in the pram but there was a verse of “miso miso fighting in the dojo” thrown in too!

🤣 OP, my admiration for you has increased even further...bouncy bouncy is one of mine and my DCs' fave songs to sing to each other! Very well done for getting out and about, and glad it went OK.