Stay at home mum

[Alitlebitsleepy]

My dd is 1yo and myself and my husband have decided that I'll stay at home with her for now. Financially we're able to do this and personally, I want to spend plenty of time with her while she's so small. My husband is also happy with this decision. However, I can't shake this feeling of embarrassment when people ask what I do. Most of the mums at baby groups I go to our returning to work so it does feel like I've got to explain our choice if anyone asks me.

This is all making me doubt myself and I keep wondering if I should return to work. I feel like I might enjoy a few hours a week doing a little part time job. However, I'm still breastfeeding my dd and it would be a shame to be forced to cut down feeds if I'll be away from her...and also, I know I'd feel like I'm missing out on time with her.

Any other stay at home mums out there?

*are returning to work.

I should also add that I will definitely be returning to work once we feel dd would benefit from nursery, depending on when/if we have a second.

You do you. Other people's opinions don't matter if it works for you and your family.

It’s fine to be a sahm, it’s also fine to go to work.
Nobody else can make those decisions for you.

You're at that point where this comes up a lot so I understand. But give it a couple of months and all the women who have taken the full year and have returned will be gone and you'll be naturally chatting with other SAH parents as you get to know them.

I'm a SAHM, I'm quite young compared to the "average" age of people having first kids at the moment and I think most of my guilt comes from this.
All my friends without children have their jobs and seem to be really happy with them, but I just have to take a step back and think about how this decision is the best for our family! I understand feeling guilty, but you need to do what's best for you x