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Followed home asking about a menial thing at school

20 replies

Fingerscrossed11 · 30/08/2021 22:55

Hi,
So this evening I was going home with my 7 year old and baby in the pram. I live in a small village so we all tend to talk to random people on the street especially those with dogs for some reason Grin

Anyway a car had been sitting waiting and hadn’t thought much of it until one of my sons classmates dads got out the car and said hi I’m such and such dad. I knew who he was as my child had been in nursery with his daughter.

Anyway goes on to say about an incident at as school and I immediately think oh what’s happened, is it covid related or whatnot.

Anyway he goes on to say my son aged 7 poked his daughter in the back at school. I then ask my son in front of this other child’s parent what happened and he said they were walking back to the classroom after being outside for gym and yes he poked her in the back to be funny.

It also has surpassed that my son was given into trouble at school, he was asked did he poke this person in the back and he said yes. He doesn’t lie.

So I’m rather perplexed as to why this parent has seen me, followed me to ask about this when it had been remedied in school.

I had no knowledge until this person followed me in his car to tell me such albeit he was nice about it but kids carry on at school and my son has been told not to be careless and poke people in the back but for someone to follow me to question me about it seems pretty bizarre?
Does anyone else think the same?

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ufucoffee · 30/08/2021 22:57

Yes. He's a weirdo. Stay clear.

Pissinthepottyplease · 31/08/2021 16:58

Definitely stay clear. Mention to the teacher this incident. If he ever tries something like this again then immediately tell him to stop following women home and he needs to raise the issue with school. If he does do this again I would contact the police and I’m not a person to suggest contacting the police lightly.

Leftphalange · 31/08/2021 17:01

Yes thats way over the top! If it happens again over anything, tell him you don't wish to discuss and he can take any concerns up with the school.

thistimelastweek · 31/08/2021 17:03

He's nuts.
The matter was dealt with and that's the end of it.

Sittinginthesand · 31/08/2021 17:05

Hmmm. Definitely weird - I think I’d mention it to the head.

Aquamarine1029 · 31/08/2021 17:06

What a fucking weirdo. I would stay well away from him and his wife, and if he ever tries to approach you again tell him to fuck off.

SoupDragon · 31/08/2021 17:10

It's a non event. Just forget about it.

So many overreactions on this thread!

Name12341 · 31/08/2021 17:21

I would try to speak to him/the mum next time you see them and make sure there isn't a wider issue. It could be that it's an overreaction from the dad, but equally could be that there's been a build up of him teasing/being mean and the dad has decided it's gone too far now it's got physical.

WallaceinAnderland · 31/08/2021 18:35

@Name12341

I would try to speak to him/the mum next time you see them and make sure there isn't a wider issue. It could be that it's an overreaction from the dad, but equally could be that there's been a build up of him teasing/being mean and the dad has decided it's gone too far now it's got physical.
Don't do this. School will deal with any problems.
Sh05 · 31/08/2021 18:45

It's a matter that was dealt with in school and if the father has a problem he should take it up with the school.
I wouldn't have questioned my child about it in front of him or indulged his complaint in any way.
I would definitely mention it to the class teacher so he/ she knows the parent wasn't happy with how it was dealt with.

GoWalkabout · 31/08/2021 18:50

I would think he got himself worked up into an overprotective rage because his little girl was upset by a boy (or his partner did) and decided to have it out with you/your son (or was sent by partner) . But was more timid when it actually came to it.

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Fingerscrossed11 · 02/09/2021 21:36

Thank you everyone. Sorry for the late reply, just getting a minute to myself Grin I thought it was rather bizarre, I was a teacher years ago and chose to change career path but I would think it should be dealt with in the school. Kids annoy each other constantly.
@Name12341 there is no wider issue, my son was playing around, trying to be funny. There was no mention of anything previous and they both went to nursery together and are good friends.

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MissyB1 · 02/09/2021 21:41

@Name12341

I would try to speak to him/the mum next time you see them and make sure there isn't a wider issue. It could be that it's an overreaction from the dad, but equally could be that there's been a build up of him teasing/being mean and the dad has decided it's gone too far now it's got physical.
Absolutely awful advice! Don’t do this!
Daydrambeliever · 02/09/2021 21:58

It's a non event. Just forget about it.

It's not really. He followed her home. He didn't approach her at the school. He followed her home. A man followed a woman home to admonish her. If it wasn't him trying to be threatening his lack of awareness is shocking.

Op, I would speak to the school about this.

AttaGirrrrl · 02/09/2021 22:06

If he tries to speak to you again, just politely refer him back to school.

“I’m really sorry to hear that, but I presume it’s been dealt with by school. If you’re not happy with how they’re looking after your daughter, maybe take it up with them. Bye”

Starlightstarbright1 · 02/09/2021 22:06

I would also speak to school but also. I would if he approaches you again tell him that if he has any issues to take it into school- we had a woman who was like this at our primary. I was very grateful my ds didn't like her dd and was never part of his friendship circle.

Theworldishard · 02/09/2021 22:07

@Daydrambeliever

It's a non event. Just forget about it.

It's not really. He followed her home. He didn't approach her at the school. He followed her home. A man followed a woman home to admonish her. If it wasn't him trying to be threatening his lack of awareness is shocking.

Op, I would speak to the school about this.

This
PegasusReturns · 02/09/2021 22:10

It's not really. He followed her home. He didn't approach her at the school. He followed her home. A man followed a woman home to admonish her. If it wasn't him trying to be threatening his lack of awareness is shocking

This!

He’s a complete weirdo

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Fingerscrossed11 · 02/09/2021 22:19

Thank you everyone, they are friends but if his happens again then I will be more vocal. Took me completely by surprise

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thefirstmrsrochester · 02/09/2021 22:24

Crikey, following you (or the parent of any child who is perceived to have ‘wronged’ his child) for any reason is not on. Speak to the school and get this nipped in the bud OP.

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