Advice About Nursery

[Oreoreo]

Hi everyone, just looking for a bit of guidance. My DD started a term time nursery placement 3 afternoons a week back around Easter time. I ended up losing my job due to Covid and have decided to be a SAHP.
During the summer holidays my DD got into a more regular sleeping pattern although have been having a lot of issues with food and getting her to eat.
Fast forward to now, her naps clash with nursery times and if I were to wake her early I’d still be held up taking her on time because she takes so long to eat now, if at all, and they won’t feed her there.
I’ve asked the nursery if I can change her hours and they said no.
Basically I’m wondering whether it’s worth even sending her back at all. I’m here all the time now with her and the nursery would be more for her than me.
Just looking for some advice really. Should I mess with her routine as the nursery suggests for the sake of a couple of hours to myself or should I just pull her out and wait a few years. She’s 10 months so I know nursery isn’t like, essential at this age

They wont feed her at nursery? Id also assume she'd be having at least one nap at nursery if shes only 10months old? What ive learnt is that nurseries tend to create their own routine for babies, so an early wake from a nap wouldnt concern me too much. Not feeding her concerns me though. Perhaps look for a nursery that suits you better?

I was about to say send her but if she's really 10 months I'd hold off if you can get a place. Our DD started at about that age, and we just had to use her childcare's time as her 'routine', then covid hit and she was at home for months and we stuck rigidly to the childcare hours to make it easier when she went back.

I can honestly say, despite loads of engagement from us (but not other toddlers due to the situation) she really benefited from going back around 17 months. By that stage, she loved having other friends to play with and really thrived, which surprised me: we're both working full time so I'd resigned myself to the fact that while she'd be fine in there it probably wouldn't be beneficial till she was at least 2 but certainly in her case she got a lot out of it at that age.

However if your'e happy to have her home I wouldn't be sending an under one if its causing issues, equally I'd be aware her routine will likely change a lot in the coming months.

At 10 months old, take her out. No benefit of nursery at that age.

She only has a place for two and a half hours in the afternoon (it’s all we were able to find space wise when we were initially looking) so it’s after their lunch time. They would only feed her a snack there which is a pear, apple etc but unless it’s cut up she can’t eat it yet and they won’t do that there.
If they would give her lunch then I could work something out nap wise but I don’t want to send her hungry especially when she won’t get anything there. I just don’t think it’s worth it anymore, especially now I’m not working, but she enjoyed it when she went and I feel bad that she might be missing out (although I know at this age she won’t remember much!)

What kind of nursery won't cut up a pear for a 10 month old?! I would pull her out and spend some time looking for a better nursery. At her age it's better to find somewhere that will work around her needs even if you have to go on a waiting list.

Thank you for all the advice so far. I am leaning more towards pulling her out. I just want to do what’s best for her.

Pull her out for now, and try again in a year or so if you don't need childcare.

(Full disclosure... I was a SAHM and we sent our eldest to nursery 2 mornings at 16 months, as I was pregnant, and youngest at 22months. They loved it as toddlers, but I think I got more benefit as a bit of breathing space for a few hours)

They wont cut up fruit for her?! This sounds like an appalling nursery. Id pull her out and look for a better childcare setting.

What kinda nursery are you at?! They won’t cut up fruit for a baby?! I’d pull your kid outta there regardless!

My DD2 is currently in the baby room at nursery & their menu ranges from full purées for the younger babies (6 month +) and then a normal menu for the older babies but suitable for their age. Their snacks are very thinly cut fruit & veg, melty crackers, small slices of cheese, savoury oat bites..

Pull her out

Take her out and just take her to free-play baby groups a couple of days a week/meet with friends with similar aged babies. They don't need nursery at that age, they enjoy a change of scenery and meeting new people but you don't need nursery for that.

If you want a bit of time to yourself that's absolutely fine too, but look for something that suits her routine better.

At 10 months old she's better off with you than a nursery.

If you want some childcare going forward look for a childminder who can be more accommodating to your needs and your baby's needs. I personally think childminders are better for young children until they reach around age 2 to 3 and then mixing with larger groups of children their age in a more structured environment can become more beneficial.

They’re meant to provide food in a developmentally suitable way.. weird they won’t do that. Not worth the agro for 2.5 hours is it?

Pull her out. IMO she wont be getting anything more from nursery than being with you. Enjoy this time

I'd change her nursery. You don't need it at the moment so don't bother.

In a few months see if you can find a morning a slot somewhere.