Sleeping in their own room

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I'm fed up of people telling me my 8mo should be in their own room. She sleeps really well next to me in her travel cot and I love having her there, she loves that she's in with us and we all get a good nights sleep. SO many people keep telling me she should be in her own room now (mainly in laws - so annoying) - why?! I know the recommended age is at least 6 months but I just don't know why people insist a child should sleep in their own room?! Can anyone enlighten me to the benefits? My only guess is that they think she is 'clingy' with me (I.e. isn't jumping for joy and cooing and gurgling to random family members) and to be honest - the more they tell me to do it the less I actually want to! So annoying xx

My cousin shares with her 3 year old. Lots of people I know still sharing at 9 months. I have a 6 week old and cannot wait until we no longer need to share but maybe that’s more to do with the fact he’s already in his own room (we have a spare bed in there) and I miss my very comfortable bed.

Because society has this weird fetish with very young babies being independent and defining successful parenting on how independent a baby is.

I don’t know any grown ups who live with other grown ups they like but still choose to sleep in different rooms on their own. Why we expect a baby to be more independent than an adult when it comes to bedtime I have no clue but it is ridiculous.

I was happy to get my bedroom back when my 3 as babies went in their own rooms. Got tired of creeping around trying not to wake them, unable watch a film in bed or have sex with my then partner.

We kept waking our DD when we go into our room to sleep as our floorboards were so bad, plus everytime I turned in bed I woke her up or she woke me up with her random shuffles. Went in her own at 7 months and she slept great! It's different for everyone I guess, but if you're happy with your baby in your room then it's up to you what you want to do.

It’s totally fine - people are just being weird and rude.

For some babies it helps improve sleep - you don’t wake one another up or disturb one another.

It’s different for everyone. At 6 months DS did not need to be next to me anymore, he was sleeping through and there was just no need for it. If he had still needed me, I’d have kept him next to me. I also wanted my own sleeping space back where I didn’t have to creep around in the dark when I came to bed, and have to be as silent as possible at all times. Also DS kept being disturbed by DH’s alarm every morning.
I don’t think it’s anything to do with clingy vs independent. It’s about how everyone gets the best sleep, baby and parents.

We were waking DD when we went to bed, so it was good to move her through (at 7 months in the end, as her room wasn't ready till then).

But if it's working for your family, it's no one else's business. There's nothing wrong with her being in your room.

“This is what works for us” is the phrase you need. Don’t explain yourself just keep saying that phrase.
It’s nobody else’s business where your baby sleeps.

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My son is nearly seven and has never slept in his own bed but i do wish i’d dealt with this when he was younger as it’s just so long and so hard now that i don’t seem to have the energy to deal with the unbelievable tantrum that it takes to get him into his own bed. If i do persevere he is back in my bed as soon as he wakes up. It’s entirely my fault as i’ve just had so much to deal with that this had been the last thing i wanted to confront; however i’ve made it worse by leaving it so long. If i’d have got him sleeping in his own room as a baby/ toddler i wouldn’t be where i am now (basically Norma Bates🤦‍♀️😂)so consider this when you decide what to do! x

To hell with other people's opinions. If it works for your family and isn't harming anyone then keep doing it. When it isn't working you can change it. My LO stayed in our room longer than is expected (about 13months old) but we made the move when it felt right. He adjusted perfectly, no difficult nights settling in or anything. I feel like if we tried him earlier then we may have had a tough time.
If you are all getting a good night's sleep then I wouldn't change it

My daughter just turned 4 and she still sleeps with me . She is confident and is not clingy either. Don't listen to other people do what is best for you and your child xxx

We moved ds1 into his own room at about 6 months and hated it so we moved him back until we all felt ready. It is all about doing what is right for your family. The best Health Visitor I ever saw said that if everyone is happy with the situation it is not a sleep problem. You will know when the time is right for you.

DS went into his own room about 9 months
(Then came back at 2.5 ish as DD couldn't sleep in our room)

DD cannot sleep near us, we moved her at 1 ish as she was waking every hour but sleeps well in her own room. When she s Ill i like to have her with me but she just can't settle.

DS normally comes into our bed at 1am.

DS3 is 2yo and still sleeps next to me. DS1 and 2 both co slept with me until they were around 5. Both now independent children sleeping in their own rooms. I don't get the general views in society that our children should sleep alone, especially when the majority of adults choose not to.