2 year old screaming bloody murder

[Elisemum]

Hi mums, my almost 2,5 year old seemed to entered a really frustrating phase. He randomly starts screaming and asks for example for his water- we give him water and he screams even louder saying he doesn’t want water!! We take it away from him and he screams and cry saying he WANTS water and so on. And I mean he screams bloody murder! Not wines or cries, but screams the house down and cries to the point where he almost gets sick. He is driving us insane and we tried everything ignoring him, explaining to him- nothing works. Otherwise he is a lovely happy boy but once a day he will have an episode like that and it takes the life out of us. Any advice?

My son, who is 3, has been going through this phase since a similar age to your son. Honestly, all you can do if he is screaming and crying is take a step back and breathe, and reassure him that you're there for a cuddle if he needs it, and that if he decides what he wants, you can help him.

I suppose that’s all we can do… it’s so stressful to deal with, I find it incredibly hard. Today he wanted a yogurt and when I gave it to him he went furiousl and threw the yogurt on the floor and started screaming full on tuntrum that he doesn’t want yogurt. Once I cleaned the yogurt from the floor he immediately started screaming and crying that he WANTS a yogurt. I takes so much energy to deal with this, it drains me completely.it takes about 30 mins and then he stops and gets back to being his usual happy loving self

@Elisemum

I empathise with you. It is a really stressful phase, for both the parents and the toddler. I promise it does get easier (these meltdowns are far less frequent for my toddler now that he's turned 3, they happen maybe twice a week now).

You've got this

If my 2,5 year old starts kicking off that the milk is in the wrong cup or cheese not in the right shape, I know that she’s not hungry and there’s no point trying to find the right colour cup or make a star shaped cucumber, it won’t work. There’s something else going on, maybe too tired, overstimulated, or not had enough of your attention, cuddles. At those situations I would take her to a quiet room, let her cry if needed whilst offering hugs when she’s ready.