Mat leave about to end and feeling sad I haven't done enough for my baby

[Fredsgirl19]

My baby is 10 months but was born 5 weeks early.

I'm just feeling a bit sad today.

I have one week left of maternity leave and I'm feeling emotional about not spending all my time with her but also on top of that she can't crawl or pull to stand - she can sit unaided. She moves to a side sitting position but the just moves on to tummy and rolls over. I feel sad that I should have done more to encourage her by now.

I do spend a lot of time playing on the floor with her and try lots of tummy time but she hates it.

I'm sad she's going to go to nursery and just sit on her own all day. I know that won't happen the nursery I have chosen is fab but I just wish I was going to be handing over a mobile baby who can explore etc

I don't know. I'm probably just being a bit silly. Hopefully someone can relate.

Don't feel guilty, DD started nursery at 9 months and didn't crawl until 10.5 months, pulled herself up to standing on her first birthday and walked at 15 months. Babies will do things when they're ready, it's no reflection of you as a mother.

My DD was barely crawling at that same age (and started nursery at a similar time) but she was walking before her first birthday. It's easy to say in hindsight but honestly she will get there when she gets there, I didn't think we ever would but I think she just didn't like crawling 😂

She did sit there like a pudding at nursery at first but I actually think starting there gave her a bit of a push to move a bit more really. They weren't worried at all by the way.

Enjoy your last week

My daughter went to a childminder at 9 months, not moving. I have to say I didn’t actively encourage her to walk (found it convenient to have her still in one place 😂) but I don’t actually know how much you can control/influence these things anyway. I’m sure nursery won’t just leave her there sitting alone all day. She’s bound to be on the move within the next few weeks anyway which is such a short time in the grand scheme of things. She’ll be fine x

DS1 didn't crawl until 15 months but still got loads out of his first (and subsequent) year/s at nursery.

My DS never did tummy time (would vomit every time) and I didn't specifically do anything to encourage rolling, crawling, walking or standing. He crawled at 7 months and walked confidently at 10 months. I genuinely think it was genetic for him (his dad walked at 9 months). It really isn't something you need to feel guilty about, it's completely out of your control.

Oh bless you I would feel sad about this image too but I'm sure the staff won't just leave her sat there alone!