Feeling Useless...

[R4ch4e1]

I'm a new mum. My newborn is only 1 week old and I am absolutely besotted and in love with him!
However, I also have this overwhelming feeling of uselessness - is this a normal feeling? For example, this morning he woke at 5.20am, I fed, changed, cuddled, swaddled, rocked, you name it...I tried it and he would just not settle. I feel like the worst mum ever, not knowing what he wants. Did anyone else feel this way? It would be very reassuring to know that I'm not the only one feeling like this on this crazy new journey.

Yes. I felt this way.

I had read all this stuff about following my instincts but they just weren't there. I had to learn what what worked for my son through trial and error and getting to know who he was at the same time he was getting to know me! As soon as I cracked it he'd change again. It was hard but it was a process and obviously this is how we bonded.

Good luck. It's hard when they won't settle. I know 5.20 is very early but at other times of the day I found getting outside helped both of us. Even if it was just standing at an open door.

Yes!!! Welcome to being a new mum! It's exhausting and a massive learning journey.

Did you give him a really good burping session?

The newborn stage is the hardest part in my opinion. Get to six weeks and it gets a bit easier, then again at 12 weeks and 6 months.

But rest assured you'll be doing a great job and your baby will dote on you just as you are! X

He’s crying because he doesn’t understand what he wants either! And if he doesn’t know, you can’t!
You’ll figure it out between you by trial and error.

At this point you are both still learning. Baby has spent the last 9months safe inside of you. He has no clue what is going on and wants back in.

It's normal to feel useless, I still do at times. You will get to know each other and get to know what he likes, until he changes his mind and decides he wants something else lol.

Thank you all for your comments! I appreciate this so much. I realise that, it's early days and maybe I'm probably expecting a miracle too soon! Or maybe it's because I'm a hormonal wreck LOL.
I just want to be the best I can be for him. I'm sure we will get there, together. 🤱🏼

Your hormones are all over the place.
Everything, but EVERYTHING is new for your baby.
And EVERYBODY else in the world knows what to do, how to fix it...
Yeah..
All sounds absolutely normal to me...
You will learn together..be patient, but most of all be kind to yourself and ignore most of what the rest of the planet tells you/is doing.. there will be times when nothing you do is right.. nothing you do can fix it... but it will be alright in the end... the world rolls on...
You will both be fine. xx

Also it’s normal for the baby blues to kick in around now as your hormones are all over the place.
You got this momma!