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Can I leave a one-year-old for two nights?

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almay8830 · 23/08/2021 13:52

Would you leave your almost one-year-old for two nights/three days to go on a two-night honeymoon holiday? Or is one night better to begin with? Baby won't have slept without us there, but they would be sleeping in their own bed while grandparent house sits. Is two nights okay? Pretty sure I sound ridiculously precious, but this is first baby so don't know if two nights is too big a jump from no nights Grin

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Justmuddlingalong · 23/08/2021 13:53

Yes.

LemonLemonLemon · 23/08/2021 13:55

I left my 1 year old for one night with DH then about two weeks later for 2 nights with DM. He was fine, but he is very secure and doesn’t worry if we are separated.

Depends on your baby’s bond with the grandparents too? Does he know them well?

I don’t see an issue at all - have a great time!

Flumo · 23/08/2021 14:01

Go and having a lovely time :)

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Kitkat151 · 23/08/2021 14:05

Yes

Escapetothecounty · 23/08/2021 14:07

Yep, have a great time!

Persipan · 23/08/2021 14:12

Well I wouldn't have but that's because mine was (and remains) an epic boob monster who won't sleep for more than s couple of hours at a time without access to his supply, not because of any personal scruples about the idea in theory.

girlmom21 · 23/08/2021 14:13

Baby would be absolutely fine for two nights if they're with their grandparents

LakeShoreD · 23/08/2021 14:14

Of course it’s fine. Why would you think that it’s not?

sandgrown · 23/08/2021 14:15

As someone who left my daughter for two weeks at 8 months old I would say baby will be fine with capable and loving relatives.

mistermagpie · 23/08/2021 14:15

I left mine with grandparents for two nights when she had just turned one, all was fine! She does have two older brothers who were with her though so that might have helped her (and me!) feel happier with it.

I wouldn't worry, it will be fine.

Normandy144 · 23/08/2021 14:17

Yes go! We left ours when they were 2 and 5 for 5 nights on honeymoon. All was fine - grandparents slightly exhausted though!

sub453 · 23/08/2021 14:18

While 99% of our holidays have included our kids, we went to New York for a 5 day anniversary trip when my kids were 9 months and 3. My parents were brilliant with them both so I didn't have any reservations.

Miliao · 23/08/2021 14:18

@Persipan
Oh you poor thing! Every 2hrs at 1yrs old. That sounds awful, I have so much respect how you cope with the sleep deprivation, I think I would have voluntarily sectioned myself if mine had done that at 1!!

Nowisthemonthofmaying · 23/08/2021 14:23

It depends on so many factors - how do they sleep normally? Do they know the grandparents well? Etc etc. I have a one year old and I couldn't but that's because I'm still breastfeeding and co-sleeping plus she has pretty bad separation anxiety at the moment, but your situation is probably completely different! The fact that you're considering it probably means that they'll be totally fine and you can have a nice break.
A couple of things worth thinking about - can you do a trial one night away beforehand as practice? And if for any reason the baby wasn't fine, would you be able to come back early?

Bobholll · 23/08/2021 16:24

Yep. I’m getting married this week & my 17 month old will be with Grandparents for 3 nights while we go on a mini-moon! It’s the first time we’ve left her, I do feel a bit sad/anxious about it BUT she loves her Grandparents & will have a lovely time! I think my anxiety is more that I can’t explain to her that we are going away but will come back! My 4 year old fully understands & I find that easier!

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almay8830 · 23/08/2021 18:55

Thanks everyone! I knew I was being ridiculous! Baby has great relationship with grandparents so no worries there Smilejust needed a nudge in the right direction I think Grinthanks again

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almay8830 · 23/08/2021 18:57

And yes, she sleeps solid from 7pm to 7am to the person who asked Smileevery night since three months Wink gonna go for it!

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Cuddlemuffin · 23/08/2021 18:57

I think it's fine but would recommend a trial 1 night first as I think you'll probably feel better knowing baby is totally fine and then can enjoy yourself more x

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almay8830 · 23/08/2021 18:58

Yes may try a trial night as grandparents aren't far away! Good idea!

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coffeeandjuice · 24/08/2021 16:48

You'll never forget your honeymoon, baby will never remember you went a way for a few days. Enjoy the break. It'll be nice for baby to have the time with gps x

Nocutenamesleft · 24/08/2021 16:58

After my first child was born. I was in hospital for over a year.

We’ve got the strongest bond and wouldn’t think 2 nights would be bad at all

Bells3032 · 24/08/2021 17:03

yes esp if familiar with who looking after them. wouldn't leave alone for two nights though!

I'd reccomend a trial night though beforehand just so LO can get used to it and any issues can be sorted

GintyMcGinty · 24/08/2021 17:05

Yes you can and yes I did.

Baby will be fine. Grandparents will love it.

mrsbitaly · 24/08/2021 17:13

I think it depends how your little one is in the night. If they generally sleep well in the night then I would day it's fine. If you have the option can you do a test run for 1 night to see if the family can manage?

MattyGroves · 24/08/2021 17:51

It's really all about how well they know the grandparents. We couldn't have done this at this age because ours just didn't have that level of familiarity with the grandparents. They love my parents and have fun with them but my parents haven't done anything like change nappies or comfort them or whatever