Here we go again with toilet training

[Bakingwithmyboys]

Tomorrow I start toilet training DS2 who turned 3 today.

I'm feeling nervous about it even though I've done this before, I know not all children are the same and DS1 is now nearly 7 so it was nearly 4 years ago!

DS2 isn't showing all the signs of being ready. He will sometimes tell me when his nappy is wet and sometimes when he's done a poo. However, he hates nappy changes now and they are becoming more of a fight. He's excited to start but not 100% convinced he really knows what it means.

The main reason I'm doing it is he starts morning sessions at pre school in 2 weeks and I don't feel I can send him without at least trying. The pre school are fine with supporting potty training and I've signed a permission form for them to change nappies so it's ok if it doesn't happen.

I know I'll be fine once we get into it. It's just making me feel nervous tonight.

@Bakingwithmyboys
Good luck! How did today go? I felt exactly the same as you the night before we started last week. Hope it's going well.

Good luck! We started 5 weeks ago and he's not one of the ones who just got it. You might have one of those children who just get it. We still have to put him on every hour to avoid accidents xx

Unfortunately it did not go well. He refused to put on any more pants after getting quite upset at the 4th and 5th accidents. So I put him in pull ups but we still did sitting on the potty regularly.

Then at the end of the day he had an absolute meltdown at the idea of actually weeing, even with a nappy on. It was horrible. He was lying on the change mat as kept saying something wasn't right, then all this wee bursts out and he's in absolute tears. I get him in the bath and cleaned up and we went back to nappies.

Going to leave it a while. Perhaps when he sees others in pre school using the toilets it will help.

@Bakingwithmyboys you know what's best for your child and if you believe waiting a little longer then that's probably best.

Accidents on the first day and the first week and coming weeks are to be expected. To me, it sounds like he notices he is weeing which is brilliant already. If he's 3, a reward chart would also be good. Do you take him to to toilet when you go for a wee and your older boy?

We chose a week where the weather was amazing and basically spent all day in the garden, so accidents there aren't that bad. We praised the accident almost like ohhhh wow look you peed, usually we go on the potty and then put him on.

I fully expected the accidents. It was the crying (and we genuinely thought he was on pain with this crying) and him trying desperately not to wee. He did it again tonight a little before his bath.

I'm leaving the potty out, always offering pants and pull ups but I feel at the moment pushing it would do more harm than good.

100% do what you think is best. We can offer advice but you're the person who knows your little boy xx

Tried potty training twice with my dd and it just didn't work out and she was getting upset by it. So I left it for a while, then out of the blue she decides she doesn't want to wear a nappy and wants to use the potty, that was Easter time. She's had about handful of accidents since then but otherwise she's been amazing. It was just when she was ready.