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Very Clingy son!

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reighn · 21/08/2021 08:43

Hey everyone, just abit of advice needed :)

I have a 2 year old son! He's always been in his own cot when he was a baby and then transitioned into his own single bed at 2 , a couple of month ago I got him and his sisters camper van bunk bed as they started sharing a room in January of this year. Since then he's constantly screaming to be in my bed and he's mega clingy to me! ( I love it to an extent) I do love how much he loves me but I can't go to the toilet without him bringing a pillow and blanket in there to lay on the floor and wait for me!😂 he's getting very clingy to the point he will NOT go to anyone else not even his dad , if he cries he wants me and only me or he will kick off. This is upsetting his dad a lot lately he thinks he doesn't like him, which isn't true obviously he's just seriously clingy towards me.

Long story short, I need to get him back in his own bed he's waking up 4/6 times a night when I transfer him back in his own and e only reason I let him fall asleep with me is because I hate seeing how bad he panics when he sees I'm not there it's like he's going to throw up the thought of me not there! Another reason is I have 2 other children that go to school and he will keep them up all night.

I don't know what to do the clinginess is so REAL I cannot go anywhere without him going mental!

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reighn · 21/08/2021 08:57

I'll also mention... it's like a ritual that he gives me a cuddle every second of the day and if I don't see him trying to come in the kitchen for one for example he will scream so loud and shout " I need a cuddle mum please" please understand I love the amount of love I get from my little boy my daughter is loving but she isn't clung to me i feel mostly sorry for her I try do movies in bed while he falls asleep in there bedroom so she doesn't feel left out or like I'm having him in my bed constantly , I just get him back to sleep in mine when everyone else is asleep to keep peace at bay.

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Rainyx · 21/08/2021 09:20

I had similar with my son, he was about 18m when it started. Except he hated me and just clinged to DH who works full time so when he wasn't home it was hell. I actually started him at nursery for a few hours a day, i felt so harsh at the time but it definitely worked. First few times he screamed when he was left it was awful, but then he realised it was fun and they kept him constantly busy with no time to think about daddy which I couldn't do at home. He was also nackered from it so would sleep in his own bed again all night. After that he loved me again, he still has an extra special bond with DH though but not to the clingy extent it was.
My dd was completely pushed out for a while, she wasn't allowed near DH without DS kicking off, and when DH was at work he would just scream for him so she didn't have much time with me as I was trying to sort ds, thats why I decided to try nursery and thankfully it worked for us.

reighn · 22/08/2021 17:33

@Rainyx hey! My son does go to nursery and he loves it but it doesn't seem to work with the sleeping
Hoping he's back in October so I'm hoping it works xx

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