Toddler different at nursery

[loui92]

I have just been called in for a meeting at my LBs nursery. He is 28months and has a stop start introduction to nursery (3 days a week) due to covid and me keeping him at home.
The nursery manager said she had observed him playing alongside but not with other children, showing little emotion and not following instructions. This is completely different to the child I have at home. He is sociable, imaginative plays and is able to put a name to the emotion he’s feeling. His key workers have never stated any concerns and the nursery manager said at the moment she wasn’t concerned. I don’t see any reason for her pulling me for this meeting apart from causing me huge anxiety and confusion.
This probably makes no sense but what would you do in my situation?
Thank you.

In this situation I would do nothing! It's a two way street isn't it, the manager will have heard what you said and she is hopefully reassured. If you'd said yes he's like this at home, the conversation might have gone differently and an issue could have been picked up early.

It's hard not to worry though isn't it, I started a thread on here after preschool rang me with concerns about my sons fine and gross motor skills. At home he was doing roly polys of the sofa. However he can't hold a pen yet. At preschool he wouldn't join in with Zumba and they wondered if the two were connected. He told me it was because he didn't like Zumba! But as much as I know logically this is rubbish, I still spent the last few months doing fine motor activities with him and sending preschool messages about him enjoying swimming and riding his bike!

I don’t think you need to do anything at this stage. He sounds introverted outside of the home which is not a problem. Maybe spend some time with him with other children at soft play or days out with cousins so he can try bonding with other children alongside you where he will likely be more confident,

I would honestly just ignore her, if it doesn't tally with how your son is at home. Seems she's worrying you unnecessarily. He is probably a bit overwhelmed being in a "strange" environment with lots of other children. You know your child better than anyone else, so trust your instincts!