My toddlers behaviour- should I give up on this friendship?

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I have a really good friend I met through having our children. Both have hit the terrible 2's but my DS is horrible.
We meet often as we live near to each other and I dont have many friends at all so this friendship has been a life saver for me especially during lockdown when we could have socially distanced walks etc.
But my DS is absolutely horrible to her DS when we meet up, it mostly revolves around sharing my DS wants every toy and will snatch, fight and cry constantly when on playdates, her DS isn't an angel and will sometimes be the same but not to the same degree as my DS.
Recently my DS bit the other child because he wanted something he had and I am mortified, he is always told no and removed but this has been going on months now (not the biting but the snatching etc) and I feel like I should just give up the friendship as clearly they don't like each other and can't play nicely?

We can't ever meet without the children so that isn't an option, I just feel like my child is a monster and feel so bad for her DS. What would others do?

No, don't do that. Like everything, this is a phase, and will pass. Albeit an absolutely horrible one.

You are very aware, and that's great. Dd was like this after first lockdown and I was the same as you, mortified and tried to back away, a good friend won't let you.

I would remove the toy angle for now. Try walks again, a park, even soft play! Something where it removes the trigger for the moment. Then try again with a slow introduction of toys.

Dd is much, much better. Another friends Dd is absolutely awful at the moment, it's fine, most of us will be there.

I think if you thought it was funny or were not bothered I would be worried about my friendship with you, but that's not the case.

Keep the friendship! Your son will change very soon - these phases don't last that long really. You will need your friend in the future and she'll need you.

Yep meet at big outdoor attractions like visitor farms, at playgrounds or on walks, not in each other's living rooms.

By the way taking the view that its okay not to share favourite toys is far better in my opinion and leads to children who are actually more willing to share of their own accord. If your DS is in the middle of playing with something or has favourite toys don't make him share those toys or puzzles or whatever. After all adults don't share all their belongings with their friends and acquaintances either, especially things they're in the middle of using or favourite personal possessions.

Meeting on neutral territory where any play equipment is community property is lower pressure.

I was in the exact same position 9 years ago except the shoe was on the other foot and my friends son would hit my daughter!! We kind of just got on with it although it’s a lot of stress at the time and now they are both 10 and play completely ok with each other. Fast forward 7 years from then I then had 2 children within the space of a year and now I have the boisterous little boy that pushes and doesn’t share and it’s more stressful now because he is doing it then when it was being done to my first daughter and now his younger sister who is 1 and a half is copying him which just adds to the stress. Keep your friend and just try and take loads of toys etc out so there’s loads of distraction for them both and so they don’t focus on one particular thing. It does get better as I know this from my first daughter and now me and my friend can relax and happily let them go off and play in the garden and they’re all grown up and play happily now. Xxx