Struggling with "high need" ten-month old

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I don't know if it's separation anxiety or just the way my DD is but since about 8 months, she wants me next to her all the time. She cries whenever I put her down in her high chair, her playpen or her bed. She'll just tolerate the playpen if I'm in it with her.
She cries even if DH is with her or holding her.
At night, she used to wake up a lot but I would always manage to transfer back to her bed. Now, we have no other choice but to bedshare.
It's really hard for me to be on duty 24/7, physically and mentally. I wondered if anyone had similar experiences and if so, when it got better.

Thanks in advance for sharing your wisdom

Only to say you’ll have to break the routine at some point, it won’t be easy but for your own sake. I had to do it and it took maybe a week of hell but what’s the alternative.
I started no picking her up as soon as she cried, not letting her see me when she was in the cot and I went to check on her, ended up crawling on the floor to check on her!!! Get dh to do bedtime routine. You both need to be strict and keep to it. Try Super Nanny on you tube or tv, jo frost, she has some great ideas

You poor thing. It's separation anxiety and totally normal though. Please don't leave her to cry. She wants and needs you. I know it's really hard (I've lived through it twice) but she's at an age where she needs you close and is clearly frightened to be away from you. Please don't try and train away normal baby emotions. It won't be forever. Co-sleeping is a great solution as much less exhausting for you in the long term. Good luck, I'm in the same boat with my 8 month old!

@Foreverbaffled

You poor thing. It's separation anxiety and totally normal though. Please don't leave her to cry. She wants and needs you. I know it's really hard (I've lived through it twice) but she's at an age where she needs you close and is clearly frightened to be away from you. Please don't try and train away normal baby emotions. It won't be forever. Co-sleeping is a great solution as much less exhausting for you in the long term. Good luck, I'm in the same boat with my 8 month old!

I second this.

Please don't use Super Nanny as a guide. Your baby doesn't need to be trained. Her behaviour will change a lot over the next few months as she starts gaining more independence.