Help me parent better

[ThePoliceOfficer]

My 5 yr old is driving me nuts!! I can’t seem to control her at the minute. I literally have to ask/tell her a the same thing 50 times and even then she’ll only comply/listen once I’ve snapped and shouted. I’m now finding myself getting increasingly wound up during the day and my shouting/threatening is getting worse as the day wears. I do start of talking to her calmly and explain things to her to make her understand but there’s only so many times I can do that with no result. So I guess I need help with 2 things, how do I get her to listen and how do I stop being/getting angry?

How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 www.amazon.co.uk/dp/184812614X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QKBZRVTA2ZN9PTZHAZRA?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

@ThePoliceOfficer
Is she on a tablet ipad or anything when your trying to tlk to her?

@Babyghirl not really, at least not that I can recall. It’s more so when I ask her to not do/or do something

@ThePoliceOfficer
I just know some kids that r never off there tablets and that's the way they r zombie like when someone trys to tlk to them, but maybe if they ask you to do something react the way they do a few times see what there response is lol.

Are you getting down to eye level with her and making sure she’s focused on you etc?

I second ‘how to talk so kids will listen’, it’s a great resource.

@SilverTimpani I start of that way each time. She tries not to make eye contact, I really have to force her to do it so even telling her the ‘nice’ way feels like a chore but I still do try it. I’ve downloaded the book so will have a read tonight

Sending sympathy as I still have to repeat myself a lot and my DC is 8 x