Did the super nanny back to bed method work for you?

[Londonlady92]

We are struggling so much as a family my almost 3 year old DD for the past 3 months has decided she does not want to sleep or stay in bed at bedtime we've tried everything but the super nanny technique (bedtime darling second time bedtime, 3rd+ just putting them in bed)

I fear using this technique because she will scream and hit when she can't get her way and is the most stubborn toddler I have ever known.

Needing to know if its worked for stubborn kids? Or am I just going to cause more stress for us all?

[quote Londonlady92]@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken we've been trying for a long time, hoping starting pre school in September helps alot too.[/quote]
Oh I hope so. It sounds very stressful for you

@JurassicPark101

It didn’t work for me. He’s 5 now and still doesn’t sleep all night

Me neither. In the end what worked for my daughter was a star chart. If she slept all night in her own bed for 7 nights in a row she would get a treat. If she came in our bed then the 7 days would reset. We didn’t argue or try to put her back we just reset the 7 days. It took 9 months! But at the age of 6 she finally slept in her bed all night long. May have taken a while but it was a gentle way of doing it. Some kids take longer I think. She’s an anxious child so I wasn’t prepared to let her cry it out or any of that.

We used most her techniques and found they worked very well but you have to put a lot of effort, time and yourself and partner need to be fully aligned to the plan. We used it for potty training, naughty step and bed time routine. After the initial hard work we never had any issues with bed time.

It definitely worked for me but once you start it you have to see it through to the end or you're just teaching them that eventually you'll give in.

Have you tried pushing bed time back by half an hour? My general rule of thumb is if they aren't asleep within 20 minutes then they're not tired enough yet.

@purplecrown yep we've tried earlier and later.

@RamblesShambles glad to hear it worked on stubborn one, I'm going to commit tonight.

Good luck! Stick to your guns😁

Currently doing day 1 and wow she has gone insane. Hope she settles soon.

So she gave up and was asleep in 25 minutes!! Usually takes over an hour!!

Will definitely keep this up!

Sorry to double post but I hate when I'm googling a thread and the OP doesn't update.

She slept 12 hours

Hooray!!!
I’m so happy for you.

Hopefully having her better rested will help iron out some of the other creases you were struggling with x

I used this on & off for 7 years! (The same kid) until I couldn't take it anymore and put a tv in his room & slept with him!

Turned out he has ADHD and sleep techniques probably wouldn't ever work. He finally slept in his own bed at 10, still wakes in the night now at 12 but will entertain himself without emptying the contents of his room down the stairs like he did until he was 7

Worked for my middle one when she was just turned 3 within a night.

My eldest and youngest laugh in the face of sleep and didn’t sleep through until they wanted to. It’s awful, my youngest still doesn’t and I hate it.

What worked for me was to sit outside the door (leave a pillow!) until they fall asleep. Same for night waking. And if they make noise or get up, I just said good night go to your bed go to sleep. Sometimes I had to get up and put them in bed but avoid that.

It took a couple of weeks but it worked. It had to work DD3 was in my belly and I didn't want problems once she was born

See I think it depends on the child. If you have a real stubborn one it can be a lot harder or even impossible. I mean how many times can you keep putting them back in bed then waiting around knowing they are going to come right back out. I don’t think this would work with my toddler but some kids it does x

@Parentingdilemmas DD is so stubborn and it has worked so far! Not without a tantrum if course.

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken thank you! She has been soo much happier today and so I have i!!

Oh god I've just started this technique with my 32 month old. 1st night pit her to bed +300 times, then 2nd night +200 times. Feeling awful I then had to leave her cry it out for 5, then 10 mins before putting her to bed again (for my own sleep deprived and very stressed out sanity). Fingers crossed for day 3 tomorrow.

How many times should I continue to go back and forth with no contact, she is not giving in and I'm so worried it damaging her mental state 😭
I know of no one who has had to do it this amount of times and it still not work....