I moved for my DD sixth form, and she's not that happy about it even though she instigated it two years ago. She is a quiet, private person, the kind who waits for others to approach her rather than putting herself out there to make friends. She doesn't like change and wishes she could know what her future was.
Anyway, I've just realised the move and idea of new school has affected her much more than I thought. One of the 'bribes' to help her was getting a kitten, which she has wanted for ages but we couldn't have as her brother has an allergy (he has now left home). We did this quite quickly. She has been in tears since - a couple days. The cat is cute but quite demanding (expected as I've had experience of kittens). And she now feels totally overwhelmed. She loves the kitten, but feels she was not emotionally ready for it and feels she is living someone else's life, what with the move and everything. She says she feels terrible in herself, and guilty for feeling terrible and I've never seen her this way. What can I do to help her? Telling her it is an adjustment and it will be a matter of time isn't helpful in the here and now. She slept in my bed last night for the first time in years. She does not want to return the kitten.