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Am I wrong?

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Picklebernard · 14/08/2021 15:40

My very good friend is hosting a sleepover for her daughter's birthday party
Her three children are extremely violent and aggressive towards each other and towards her virtually all of the time
I have a seven year old daughter with Down Syndrome who sometimes gets caught in the crossfire...... although I hope she doesn't always get what's going on she understands more than she can communicate
After an afternoon yesterday of incidents culminating in one of the other children hitting my daughter over the head, I picked her up and left
I never said anything bad and the mum messaged to apologise to which I responded that I'd speak with her today..... I literally haven't slept a wink because I'm disturbed by the behaviour of the children..... literally screaming in their mum's face and putting fists up to her
I've now been asked what's wrong and having diplomatically said that sometimes I find all of the fighting and falling out overwhelming, I've been told that that's how it is in their house and basically it's understandable that I'm not used to it, having only one child
The tone was definitely one of "if you don't like it, don't come over"
I'm really really gutted that I've damaged friendships now, but I have to put my child first....am I wrong to think that any responsible parent would do the same?

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GoodnightGrandma · 14/08/2021 15:41

You were right to pull her out.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 14/08/2021 15:43

Stay away op. I have 5 x dc at home and it most definitely isn't how your friend lives...

BetaChangeMeUsernameAgain · 14/08/2021 15:51

YADNBU protect your child whatever it takes

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FelicityPike · 14/08/2021 16:00

Wow. No, you were absolutely 100% correct here!
That’s not normal behaviour with several children.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/08/2021 16:09

Of course you're not wrong. Your DD isn't safe with these children.

Frankly that sounds like a very bad situation, your friend may need help of some sort but your first responsibility is to your child.

Probably best you don't go over to her house when her kids are in, and have her over to yours without them.

Shauntieeeee · 14/08/2021 19:15

No! I would’ve do

Theunamedcat · 14/08/2021 19:18

Not normal behaviour i have three kids who can rough and tumble with the best of them but its not a constant stream its more an occasional outburst followed by discipline time away and consequences

snowy0wl · 14/08/2021 19:26

You are absolutely correct. That does not sound like a healthy environment to be in. I really feel for the children though, especially if the Mum is trying to normalise it.

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