I don’t want to feel like this

[CookieDough2017]

I’m really struggling to cope with being a mum at the moment. My 3 year old DD 90% of the time is an absolute delight but just recently she is being naughty 24/7.

Her two best friends at nursery have left left nursery for the 6 week school holiday and she is struggling to make friends with the other children at Nursery. The staff are aware of the issue and trying to get her involved with the other children. I also passed on my mobile number to arrange a play date with her two friends outside of nursery but nothing has come out of that.

We are trying to support her as much as possible but she keeps lashing out at me and my DH. She hits, screams end tells us she hates us and we don’t love her. She is not eating her evening meals, getting her to go to bed turns into a battle every night and the journey to nursery should take 10 mins but it is taking 1 hour!

It got so bad yesterday I broke down and one of the neighbours came out to ask if I’m ok I said no I’m really struggling to cope. I couldn’t stop crying all day I don’t want to be miserable as being a mum usually fills me with such joy.

Op I’m struggling with my 2.5 year old at the moment. His behaviour is just shocking and it’s making me a mum I really don’t want to be. I’m horrible to him now as I find he winds me up from the min he wakes at 5am to the moment he goes to bed. He’s a disaster on car journeys and screams the whole time, he kicks, he bites he screams…. Basically I’m hoping it’s a phase if not I can’t wait til the summer hols are over and he’s back to nursery and I’m working with other kids… who are at risk of exclusion from school but seem more manageable than my son!

Poor little thing.
She’s missing her friends and lashing out at the people close to her. She’s trying to make sense of her hurt.
The art of distraction maybe?
The only way I could get ADHD/ASD dressed sometimes was by being daft and saying things like “let’s get your gloves on” whilst putting socks on feet….” Lets out your jumper on” whilst putting trousers on..”Let’s see how many hops it takes to get to the car”…. Let’s see how many snails we can count on the way to….”
Just turning everything into a game. The little laughs I got meant I wasn’t being hit and shouted at and made it all a little more bearable.
Bedtime was a different issue, we had enough battles so sometimes, just so it didn’t turn into a battle of wills, it was just reading and reading in bed and we didn’t even bother with a bath.

I hope things improve soon