Parenting

[Mumatlast86]

Does a yo e else question themselves every evening as to whether your a good parent.. Is this normal?

I waited and wanted this baby for so long had fertility treatment after 12yrs of trti g and thought I'd be the best mum because she was sooo wanted she's almost 4months and I find every evening after her bath and bottle and put down to bed that I sit and question could I be a better mum could I ha e done better am I letti g her down in any way and I don't know why lol please tell me this is. NOrmal and every mum does it?

Very normal. Don't beat yourself up. You've got this mama x

It’s normal I think, unless you’re beating yourself up or analysing things too much. Part of my pnd was torturing myself about how terrible I was as their mother, and comparing myself negatively to others. 3 years on, I fleetingly think of what I could do better and what worked/didn’t work, but I’m mostly happy in how I am and think I am doing the best I can by my kids.

You are doing great, I too had difficulty conceiving, 6 years and also fertility treatment. I spent so much time trying to get pregnant, then trying keep the pregnancy, taking one day at time that it was almost as though I hadn't prepared for the bit after giving birth, the parenting bit and it was a shock and still is as times! I'm 4 years into being a parent and have two now and there are days that I think I should have handled something better or I think that was a good day and it went well. It is totally normal. Sounds like you are doing brilliantly, try to take one day at a time, try not to focus too much on anything that doesn't go so well and remember to give yourself a pat on the back every now and then as your baby grows up! You've done that and helped them grow and develop! Good luck.

Very normal I think. It led me into a deep hole of post natal anxiety. As time has gone by ive relaxed into it a lot more, my mantra is as long as ive done the best I can for my son in the moment, im happy. The 'in the moment' caveat is important as hindsight helps me beat myself up.