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Baby Constantly Crying

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 15:25

I have a 13wo and since around the 3 week mark he just doesn't appear content. Generally unless he's feeding, sleeping or being held (although sometimes this even enough) he is crying for a big part of the day; sometimes I get 10/15 minutes here or there where he's led down by me smiling away but that's it. I also have two other children; a 2yo and 4yo so I'm trying my best to divide my time between all three. I didn't have this with them so I'm at a loss but I am becoming exhausted by it. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong or if there's something I'm missing and it's really starting to make me doubt myself as a Mum. I've spoken to my HV and she's just noted it as colic - he's showing no signs of illness or allergies, etc. If anyone has any advice I'd be grateful.

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PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/08/2021 17:43

You've been dealing with this for 10 weeks?!?!?!?! Why have you not gone to the GP?

FredaFroo2 · 13/08/2021 17:44

Weight gain ok?

Could it be acid reflux? Is it better when he's upright? Xx

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:02

@PerfectPrepPrincess

You've been dealing with this for 10 weeks?!?!?!?! Why have you not gone to the GP?

Thanks, but this isn't the reaction I really need... Every visit I've had from my HV she's asked how he is and its the same answer every time. She still thinks it's colic and the only thing not matching up with the typical colic "symptoms" is that the crying is on and off all day rather than just the evening. I saw a GP at 8 weeks and I mentioned this to him and I was given the same answer; colic. I've not just stood around not trying to figure out what it is.

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:07

@FredaFroo2

Weight gain ok?

Could it be acid reflux? Is it better when he's upright? Xx

His weight gain had been fine since birth. I last saw my HV on the 22nd July and his weight had dropped down a bit from his weight check 4 weeks prior, nothing major and she wasn't concerned. I'm not sure if it could be something like reflux. He can be a little sicky with his feeds but not bringing up massive amounts or anything. He's a little sickier if he's led down straight away but I'm sure most babies are. Being upright or led down doesn't really seem to make any difference to how he is and his crying.

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pinkmoon18 · 13/08/2021 18:09

Is he arching his bag? Bringing legs up to chest?

pinkmoon18 · 13/08/2021 18:09

back

Don't expect him to being carrying a bag

PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/08/2021 18:09

I couldn't deal with that. Personally I think colic is a lame excuse for undiagnosed issues. Sorry for not writing in a more sensitive way! Also in my experience HVs are shit and I'll always take their word with a big pinch of salt.

What is weight gain like?

FredaFroo2 · 13/08/2021 18:10

Doesn't need to be sick... Could be silent reflux.

luciasanta · 13/08/2021 18:11

Could you try carrying him in a sling during the day? The closeness might help?

Are the older two at nursery during the day? Of so I'd just hold him a lot x

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:14

@pinkmoon18

Is he arching his bag? Bringing legs up to chest?

Not really no. He's acting frantic is all I can describe when he's really worked up.

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:17

@PerfectPrepPrincess

What is weight gain like?

Disregarding this situation now, my HV has been really good. She's the same HV I've had for all my 3 children. I'm just now not sure it is as simple as colic. As I said above, his weight gain from birth had been fine. I last saw my HV on the 22nd July and he had dropped a little from 4 weeks prior. Nothing major and she said she wasn't concerned

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:17

@FredaFroo2

Doesn't need to be sick... Could be silent reflux.

Ok. I always thought reflux meant a really sicky baby. I'll have a read of that, thanks

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:27

@luciasanta

Could you try carrying him in a sling during the day? The closeness might help?

Are the older two at nursery during the day? Of so I'd just hold him a lot x

I've done this a lot since he's been born but he's getting pretty heavy now and it's a killer on my back. My other two children aren't in nursery no. My son will start reception now in September. I'm at home on my own every week day until early evening trying and I'll be honest I'm really starting to struggle...

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bloodywhitecat · 13/08/2021 18:28

I empathise OP, my 11 week old is the same. She has C.diff and is now on a lactose free milk but things haven't really improved (well they did for a few days but the last couple of days have been horrendous again). The only place she is happy is in a sling.

bloodywhitecat · 13/08/2021 18:29

Has had that should say

iamverytired · 13/08/2021 18:34

Are you breastfeeding or bottle feeding? If breastfeeding consider going dairy and soy free for a few days to see if that makes a difference xx

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:41

@bloodywhitecat

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you have some better times soon! It's definitely hard work. I'm trying to give my time and attention to all three, but it's though when this little one isn't happy. It's a shock to the system as I've never experienced a crying baby like so before. Maybe I'll have to try and persevere and start using my sling again

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 18:42

@iamverytired

Are you breastfeeding or bottle feeding? If breastfeeding consider going dairy and soy free for a few days to see if that makes a difference xx

I was BF for the first few weeks but now he's on formula - he's taking 6oz every feed xx

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luciasanta · 13/08/2021 18:45

Bless you OP that does sound very full on

bloodywhitecat · 13/08/2021 18:52

What are his nappies like?

MistyFrequencies · 13/08/2021 18:59

I can't do links but google Regulation Disorders of Sensory Processing in infants and young children. In the BC Medical Journal.
My first was "colicky" etc etc exactly like you describe and only about 3 years old did we get to an Occupational Therapist who thought a lot was to do with Sensory Processing. She is 4 now and an absolute dream, the easiest 4 year old I know so it does get better...

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 19:11

@bloodywhitecat

What are his nappies like?

At the moment they're looser than normal but he had his rotavirus vaccination Tuesday so as expected, I know they can be a bit funny for a week after. Normally though they appear as they should

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MuMmaOf3littles · 13/08/2021 19:12

@MistyFrequencies

I can't do links but google Regulation Disorders of Sensory Processing in infants and young children. In the BC Medical Journal. My first was "colicky" etc etc exactly like you describe and only about 3 years old did we get to an Occupational Therapist who thought a lot was to do with Sensory Processing. She is 4 now and an absolute dream, the easiest 4 year old I know so it does get better...

Thank you very much. Will take a look at that

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Nsmum14 · 13/08/2021 19:27

I had similar with my third baby when he was around that age, the age of the vaccinations really. Very unsettled, crying a lot. I felt he needed a lot of sleep, and struggled to stay asleep. It is hard when you've two older kids to run after, as well as the newborn. One day it started to get better, and I can barely remember how hard it was now. So there is a possibility that it is nothing much at all, some babies just cry a lot at that age. My little one is now a very happy 10 month old (though still needy a lot of the time, and a bad sleeper). Good luck, patience, and I'm sure baby's fine, it is you who is suffering.

crosbyrose · 14/08/2021 07:33

CMPA?

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