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Should I be concerned that my 3 year old is quiet at childminders?

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Raminta · 12/08/2021 14:14

Today our childminder told my husband that my 3 year old is too quiet and she's concerned if everything is okay with him development wise. I've had no reason to worry before and have been quiet happy with his progress. At home, my boy is very chatty and we chat together about things all day. He tell me which fruits, toys etc he likes most. He tell me why he's laughing in a sentence (e.g. when he saw boy outside trip over). He actually asks using simple sentences me to go and buy things for him from the local shop which I thought is pretty advanced for his age.
When we go out for a walk to the park etc, he very happy, runs around and is always the first one to say hello to other kids of his age. Sometimes he's so friendly that other parents actually notice. Having said that because of covid and not having any siblings, he has no regular friend of his age at home and so probably doesn't get a chance to have a long conversation with other kids (like the way he chats with me for hours at home).
I was quite happy with his development until the childminder today said she's worried about him. My son has told me a few time he doesn't like at the childminders so I'm wondering if something to do with the childminder rather than my son? Any advice please on what is normal for a 3 year old boy?

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FortunesFave · 12/08/2021 14:20

From what you say, he seems fine...maybe he just doesn't like the Cms house or the other kids there? Maybe he doesn't like the CM!

Can you take him to some playgroups and observe? Will be be going to nursery soon?

Imicola · 12/08/2021 14:37

How long has he been going to the childminder? Our DD has taken a while to fully settle in at her nursery post lockdowns, to the point where she is comfortable being fully herself, and was quiet for a while. Maybe he just needs time?

PineappleWilson · 12/08/2021 14:37

We moved DD from a nursery to a CM because we were concerned that she was quiet and didn't seem to enjoy going. She's only been at the CM's a week or so so is quiet when she first gets there but is really settled when she's there, but there are older DC for her to play with and copy (she has an older sibling at home) and others the same age as her.

If your DS isn't very new to that CM, I'd look around to see what other childcare options are available tbh. They will always be different at home than in a care setting, but I don't think there should be this much difference.

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